Netflix and Nichevo’ya: Ruination or Rejuvenation?

Netflix and Nichevo’ya: Ruination or Rejuvenation?

Today, you’re getting a special on me, guys. A two-for-one blogging day special, in fact.

So, in my last post, I talked a bit about how I’d discuss my feelings and fears about the news that the Grishaverse was getting its own Netflix series.  Granted, I think it is good enough, beyond good enough, to be set on screen. But as it is tied for THE top of the top of my fave series of ALL time, I have seriously high expectations for this thing; in fact, when I first got wind of the news (regrettably, right before my work shift started), the excited adrenaline rush everyone else was currently experiencing (some continue to experience it) faded faster for me, because I started worrying my little perfectionistic head over the moon about stuff, shooting my anxiety up tenfold at work, and probably making me seem a bit… tenser. (I mean, I spent an hour alone worried on who they would pick for the Darkling… xD)

In fairness to Grisha Queen Leigh, via her newsletter, I’ve seen she put a LOT of time, effort, and thought into this decision, has had many (probably worse) offers she could’ve taken. But she was told to go with her gut, and go with her gut she did indeed (convincing me further that she is an Intuitive, but another rabbit trail for another day). Netflix is renown for their (fairly accurate) film adaptations, and not responsible (I don’t think, anyways) for the Maximum Ride film adaptation, which I initially feared (they ARE responsible for the adaptation of, To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before). It helps that they will be producing multiple episodes of the series, encompassing the Shadow and Bone Trilogy, the Six of Crows duology, and even bits of The Language of Thorns. (REALLY hoping Ulla and the Darkling will get together!)

So, you might be wondering, why exactly am I worried still? Good producers, Leigh’s on the team as an Executive Producer of the show, multiple episodes, more time to divulge precious details… what’s the problem?

A couple of problems, actually.

Problem number one was I was a bit confused by Leigh’s newsletter email– are they making only 8 eps, 8 eps per season (and one season per book..?), or… what? It was a bit vague, so the confusion worried me a lot. (She did, however, reassure us that they would not smash up the timelines, not badly if at all)

I was also worried which details and snark would be included, and which might be excluded. I’m terrified they’ll leave a little, important detail that was in the book outside of the series. I’m scared of who they’ll cast for the characters (please, no Twilight guys or Sean O’Pry for the Darkling…), and get facial, eye or hair details wrong. This is incredibly easy to do, for both things– the Harry Potter movies were somewhat accurate, character-appearance-wise, but details-wise, left out a SLEW of things. Dobby and Kreacher are briefly touched on, for instance, but no mention of elf rights or poor, sad little Winky. The opposite is a bit true in The Hunger Games movies– they chose a 30-something actress to portray a 16 year-old, but stuck to the majority of details and plotline in the books. The Divergent series, in movie form, violated both of these– Tris is described as blonde-haired AND KINDA PLAIN (then we get the very physically attractive Shailene Woodley. Because Hollywood.). The first movie in and of itself is fine, but so much detail of Insurgent and Allegiant is drastically altered from the books– likely to please the fans. This irks me to no uncertain bounds. There is a certain integrity even in entertainment, certain boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed, and drastic alteration from the book or the story’s moral of the story are two of them. Mind, these are also not personal criticisms against actors and actresses who act well, I’m simply pointing out they might not be the best fit for that character. 

Lastly, I am terrified that this is either going to end up like the infamous, The Last Airbender (a movie adaptation of ATLA, one that we do not speak of), and/or newbies who have not read the books and only want to watch the movies/series will delve in with little idea of what they’re watching. Worst of all, I’m terrified of it somehow, some way, going bad and the movie/TV/Netflix ONLY people like it, praise it, and are still clueless about the books. My perfectionist reader brain would be ringing like OFF THE HOOK if that were the case. I can only hope (and pray) that both it and the newer, live action series version of Avatar: The Last Airbender (out Fall 2019) do their originals supreme justice when both hit Netflix officially.

To sum: I want to believe in this, I think it has a LOT of potential to be good, to be REALLY good, but am terrified because of the above reasons. I am scared filmmakers and scriptwriters are going to try to mess with Leigh’s story, majorly, in a bad way. My consolation is that Leigh used to work in the film/movie make-up biz, so she kinda already has a gist of how it should go. I can only pray this all comes out in an awesome bundle of awesome way.



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Conversing with Lord Casimir: An EXCLUSIVE Rothana Tour Interview

Conversing with Lord Casimir: An EXCLUSIVE Rothana Tour Interview

So, I know I’ve teased this for part of November. Tormented you guys on Instagram and even Facebook about this. And God only knows the literally countless amount of times I’ve pestered Ms. Sarah Delena White herself about it, on messenger, for at least a few years, maybe even more. 😉 (Hey, an Author Bugger’s gotta do her job. And we did become good friends through my pestering, so it WAS worth it. Love you, Sarah!)


Casimir is a star-fae and an alchemist. His abilities include, but are not limited to, illusion-making, light-generation, weapons made of starlight, mesmerism, and of course alchemy.

And my efforts have not been in vain. The favorite minion, head of Tribe Minion, has finally come through, bearing great fruit of great joy from great labors.

Today, my Casimirian brothers and sisters of Casimir’s Minion Tribe, I get to interview our beloved Lord Casimir, himself, in celebration of his new role in Sarah’s sequel to Halayda, Rothana. That’s right–this interview is the next pivotal stop on the Rothana Blog Tour, in celebration for its new release!

To that end, I have compiled several imperative questions months and months in advance, to prepare for this highly anticipated moment in history. Welcome, Lord Casimir. Your minions anxiously have awaited your glorious presence. Please, have a seat in one of the most comfortable, most luxurious chairs we possess.


L4G: First, a bit of an icebreaker (though you may despise trivial talk). As some of us have seen from the #1randomquestion posts that Sarah’s been sharing, one of your hobbies (aside from scheming and alchemy, of course) is insect collecting. Why did you start this hobby? Do you collect specific insects, or just dragonflies?

Lord Casimir: “I collect insects of all sorts, though dragonflies are particularly interesting. I enjoy studying them and organizing them into ornate displays on the walls of my laboratories. It’s one of the few activities I find relaxing, as it doesn’t require strategy or foresight or dealing with anyone’s emotions. Unfortunately, I can’t say the same for dealing with Faerie’s Dragonfly.”

L4G: *nods sympathetically* I daresay she likes to make things quite challenging for your plans, but we’ll discuss her more in a bit. Judging from your infamous speeches, you’ve garnered quite a bit of philosophical wisdom over time. Who is your favorite fae or mortal philosopher, and why?

Lord Casimir: “I have little time for philosophers these days. While I once found their discussions interesting, I’ve seen too many of them come and go, and watched the world go on unchanged by their debates. For all their fancy words, they often fail to grasp the true nature of reality. Experience and necessity are the only philosophers I have the leisure to heed.”


The College of Alchemy–Casimir’s current domain and area of expertise in the mortal city of Sabellyn

L4G: I wonder what the true nature of reality is… I wonder if it has to do with your view of alchemy. How did your interest in alchemy begin, especially since you’re already very clearly skilled in Solasa magic?

Lord Casimir: “I turned to alchemy out of necessity after the rest of the Solasa and I were exiled from Faerie. Fae cannot survive long in the mortal world, with all its iron and smog and little trace of magic. Those of us who could turned to alchemy to bolster our power and help minimize the effects of living in Sabellyn. Soul sense is even rarer among the fae than it is among mortals (yes, contrary to the speculation of mortals, we do have souls). Those of us who have the ability can create powerful potions that are beyond of the capabilities of ordinary alchemists. I eventually used this skill to secure a position in Sabellyn’s upper echelon.”

L4G: Speaking of which, in Sabellyn, there are obviously those with great power and influence. Why choose a college specifically, if you’re aiming for power and overall leadership, rather than a governing position?

Lord Casimir: “What casual observers often fail to realize is that the College of Alchemy is the greatest power in Sabellyn. The Ruling Council is useful, but they’re often mired in debates and formalities. While I could have obtained a seat on the Council, I prefer industry and invention, the true powers that drive the city. As Chancellor of Alchemy, I serve as an advisor to the Ruling Council, which gives me a voice within governing circles without having to be tied to their pettier aspects. It also allows me to keep a lower profile and avoid interacting with members of the fae Court when they visit Sabellyn.”


Sabellyn– A steampunk mortal city full of innovation, alchemy, slums, and secrets

L4G: …And NOW we circle back to one alchemist in particular, your former prized student, the new Dragonfly. We’ve seen quite a bit of alteration and interaction in your relationship with her, but what is your honest opinion of Sylvie Imanthiya?

Lord Casimir: “She is infuriating. She is a creature of weakness who somehow finds herself at the center of battles. Her idealism is foolish and likely to destroy her. If possible, I would have kept her out of my schemes entirely. She was the last person I wanted involved.”


Sylvie the Yushara (Dragonfly) with her “Halayda” (husband), Taylan Ashkalabek

L4G: *murmurs to self* (I wonder why the latter is… Guess Rothana will cue us in on the answer… 😉 ) We know that in Halayda, you inspire us by trying to take hold of your own destiny, your own fate, and your own realm. In your ideal, perfect world, what is one other major change you’d make, aside from complete control?

Lord Casimir: “You assume I wish for complete control. What I seek is to right the wrongs that have been done to me, to Kyure, and to fate itself. If that requires taking complete control, so be it, but do not think that that is my chief desire. It would merely be convenient.”

L4G: *grins* I’ll bet it would. Sadly, I think we need to wrap up here, because we do have a time limit… *composes self* Lastly, what advice would you give to someone else who also wishes to forge their own destiny?

Lord Casimir: “Consider the consequences of your choices before you make them. Decide whether you can live with the cost.”


Casimir’s illusionary golden garden

Thank you so, so much for joining us today, Lord Casimir!! It has been an incredible privilege and honor in having you on my humble little site today, with your Minion Tribe and Yours Truly. You are truly inspiring. We wish you great success with achieving your goals, and will be there to support you every step of the way!


Interested in reading more of Casimir and Sylvie’s story? Check out book 1 in the Star-Fae Trilogy by Sarah Delena White!

“Betrayed by a trusted mentor, Sylvie Imanthiya hides on the fringes of society, caring for half-fae orphans and trading her alchemical creations on the black market. She lives for the one night each season when she can see her dearest friend—a man whose destiny is far above hers.

King Taylan Ashkalabek knows better than to exchange halayda vows with a mortal. Even their friendship is a risk; love is an impossible dream. Then a brutal alchemical attack poisons his realm, unearthing a dark power within him—and leaving Sylvie with the ancient mark of Faerie’s savior.

Manifesting unpredictable abilities and aided by allies with their own secrets, Sylvie and Taylan journey into the wilds of Faerie to heal the damage and confront Casimir, an invincible star-fae determined to claim the realm as his own. But only their enemy knows Sylvie’s true capabilities—and Taylan’s weaknesses—and how to use them in his vicious schemes.

Her fate is life. His fate is death. With Faerie in the balance, Sylvie and Taylan must stand together before reality as they know it is destroyed.”



And let’s not forget book 2, Rothana

“A new queen falls. A death lord rises. An ancient foe looms in the shadows.

Sylvie Imanthiya is desperate to lead Faerie well and deepen the bond with her husband, former king Taylan Ashkalabek. But all hope of that vanishes when the Winter Solstice ceremony ends in disaster, stranding her and Taylan in the Deathrealm, and stripping the kingdom from her.

With Faerie in chaos, Zad and Diza are separated once again: Zad to reconcile with an old mentor to stabilize the kingdom, and Diza to confront the nefarious Casimir in the mortal realm. But Casimir claims that a greater evil seeks to destroy both realms, an evil that Diza’s unique death magic can hold at bay—if she could only remember how.

In the Deathrealm, Taylan is succumbing to the lure of specters from his past, and pushing away Sylvie’s love. Overwhelmed by decay and darkness, Sylvie must summon unexpected magic from the soul of Kyure to fight for her convictions and her husband’s heart.

Shadows divide them. Their friends are in peril. If Sylvie fails, her marriage and her world will fall.”


Check out Uncommon Universes Press to order signed copies of both snarky, romantic, fae-and-steampunk-filled books, today!


About the author of the Star-Fae Trilogy!

Sarah Delena White

Sarah Delena White was raised by wolves in an alternate dimension. She writes eclectic speculative fiction that reworks mythology with a fine balance of poetry and snark. She’s an experienced world traveler who loves to weave world folklore and ancient concepts into vibrant, original story worlds. She is the administrative manager for Uncommon Universes Press. When she’s not writing, she can be found making elegant designer bead jewelry, traveling to festivals as a professional ballad singer, drinking tea, and seeking to create the perfect latte. She can be bribed with dark chocolate.





Halayda, Rothana, and author pictures and descriptions were all taken from the Uncommon Universes official site, credit goes to them; I OWN NOTHING.

Additional picture credits:

Cover collage pic, top center: Gil-Galad by Kaprriss, Pinterest.

Glorfindel by SaMo-art of Deviantart




The Winter of Waiting



Place to


Slowing down


A snail’s


The ice


My bones

Like tiny, little


That cannot





Of mocking;



When inside.


When will

Your Will



How long may

I stand

Out in the

Cold, suffering

Winters of


My talent grows


From disuse, my


Of Your Plan

Is obscured

By blustery, snowy wind.


“Be still, My Child,”

You say,

“Be at Peace,

For before long

This shall soon


The Time spent

Shall reflect

On where you


Yourself in a

Future Predicament.

The snow may be falling,

But I am still



Our Spring is up ahead.”

A Letter To Guilt-Tripped Victims

Dear Guilt-Tripped Victim,

Although it is highly likely you are a dominant or auxiliary Extraverted Feeler (ESFJ, ENFJ, INFJ, or ISFJ), there is also a fair chance you are a dominant or aux Introverted Feeler (ISFP, INFP, ESFP, or ENFP), too. Either way, you’ve been manipulated. Guilt-tripped into thinking things are your fault, when they really aren’t. People take advantage of your caring, good-natured feelery-ness and sometimes, your ability to give others the benefit of the doubt. You want to please them because you care, but because you don’t want to offend them by standing up to them, you doormat, instead. They stomp all over you, taking good measure to wipe their shoes clean of dirt and filth, grinding it both into you and all over you. They accuse you of being selfish if you can’t do something, “do it right,” or at least can’t do it right away, for them, simply because you are preoccupied or have other obligations. Sometimes they don’t even need to say anything, just shoot you a witheringly patronizing glare that breaks you up on the inside. You can’t bear the pressure, so you cave. “Oh, thank you!” they may say, with a hug for affirmation. You hug weakly in return, but only feel a small amount of satisfaction. You do the thing you were asked to do, and in the meantime, focus on trying not to feel resentful and frustrated, because hey, a good person should be entirely self-sacrificing, right?


Not if you’re constantly being pressured or bullied into things.

Not if you’re receiving threats of any kind to, “do as I say, or else.”

Not if you’re being disrespected.

And certainly not if you’re being persecuted/hounded down for your beliefs.

You see, I’ve been there. With a few certain people I thought were my friends (most are, but a very small handful aren’t). And even my folks. They guilt trip and manipulate to get what they want, and they take advantage of your kindness and wanting to help. Now, this does not mean that you should never be kind to others, or want to help them. And you should still be a bit guarded. But this also means you need to have a healthy sense of yourself in Christ, how you are valued in His sight, and how He never compromised. When the crowds became too much for Him at certain times, He went off to the mountains, alone, to talk with His Father (God). We would do well to learn from His example. Take time for yourself, take time for Jesus, ask Him what to do. And remember, even though God wants us to serve others, He certainly doesn’t want us to be total doormats– and most importantly, when it boils down to it, He wants us to serve Him first and foremost. We often do that by serving others, of course, but when it crosses a line– say, if said others basically grill it into your head that you should listen to them and no one else– you need to be strong and take a stand.

Dear ones, I’ll be praying for you. We can do this, with Christ’s help. And we can make this stand together.




MBTI Function Stack-Up

So, we’ve been chatting a lot about MBTI types, Cognitive Function Stack-ups, and what those stack-ups mean for us, exactly (as well as how we apply them to everyday life and problems, or interactions with others). But one thing I’ve realized that we HAVEN’T discussed yet (don’t worry, we’ll get to shadow functions, eventually 😉 ) is the functions, themselves. There are four BASIC FUNCTIONS, Sensing, iNtuition (there’s a reason I wrote it like that), Feeling, and Thinking. Then each branches off into its more specific area of expertise– extraverted this or that, introverted this or that. Think of it in this light– If you go to college or uni, you have different departments, right? Well, in EACH department, there are SPECIFIC (but related!) majors you can be. In Engineering, for instance, you could be an Electrical Engineering Major, a Bio-Engineering Major, etc. In our English Department, you can be a regular English Major, an English Literature Major, an English Writing Major (Me!), and so on. Same application here: We have introverted functions, and we have extraverted functions– Se, Si, Ne, Ni, Fe, Fi, Te, and Ti. Following me so far? OK, good.

(Note: This post is going to be more of a summary post, but we’ll get into the major nitty-gritty differences later on! You guys already kind of know the difference between Se and Si; I’ve explained it before.)

As a refresher, and as previously stated, any function that is Extraverted is usually conscious/more apparent. You are normally aware you are using it. That is often why Dominant or Auxiliary Te users, for instance, can come off as know-it-alls, but really don’t mean to seem that way (think a certain character from a certain popular fictional franchise…), they’re just brilliant and honest about their brains, while being quieter (and somewhat humbler) about things like being compassionate and sweet (when they are, it’s usually more subtle and very endearing little moments). With Introverted functions, they are usually internal, subconscious, or “concealed”. No matter what your type, your first two functions will always be some sort of pairing between Extraverted and Introverted, but whether you are actually an Extravert or an Introvert yourself decides which function comes FIRST. For instance, one of my younger cousins is an ENFJ, an Extravert. She leads (Dominant) with Fe, co-piloted with Ni, balanced out somewhat with Se, and ending with Ti. As an Extravert, Fe is naturally Dominant. On the other, I myself am INFJ– an Introvert. The primary differences between my cousin and I is that our Dominant and Auxiliary functions are swapped, then our Tertiary and Inferior functions. (Note: My Ti is my Tertiary, and my Se is my Inferior) I lead with Ni, Introverted iNtuition, rather than Fe, because I am actually introverted! However, because Ni is unconscious and more underlying, more subtle, my Fe surfaces a LOT more, and, since it is an extraverted function, many assume me to be an Extravert, because I seem naturally warm, social, friendly, outgoing, etc (traits normally stereotyped with Extraverts, btw). This can cause what I like to call, “Ambivert Confusion”. There are introverted Extraverts, and there are extraverted Introverts, but no in between. It is, however, easy to confuse due to the functional stack-up. The key is to remember that Introverts always lead with an Introverted function, and Extraverts with Extraverted functions. It has nothing to do with how quiet or outgoing you are– I’ve met silent Extraverts who are great listeners, and talkative Introverts who can be loud (and, depending on the person, occasionally obnoxious 😉 ). It all boils down to HOW you get your energy (being around people, or being by yourself), how you perceive the world (big picture/intuition vs. details/sensory experiences), how you make decisions (heart/faith/emotions/beliefs vs. brain/intellect/facts/logic), and sometimes, how organized/plan-based vs. adaptable/spontaneous you are.

So, here’s the Low-Down on each function, specifically, and in which types it can be found in:


Extraverted Sensing (Se): Very “YOLO,” live in the moment kind of people. Rather perceptive to sensory details in the present, since it is solely a Perceiving function– its goal is to drink in sensory information, and observe (Ne takes it in, but simultaneously processes it/brainstorms what the info MEANS). Can behave in a childlike, impulsive manner at times. Types that have this attribute as an Inferior Function can be extremely sensitive to or bothered by outside stimuli, and prefer to be in their heads rather than in the world.

Types with Dominant Se: ESFP, ESTP

Types with Auxiliary Se: ISTP, ISFP

Types with Tertiary Se: ENTJ, ENFJ

Types with Inferior Se: INFJ, INTJ


Introverted Sensing (Si): While still focused on sensory details and quite observant, these users tend to focus on past experiences, and relay them to what’s going on in the present, or guess what will happen in the future purely with past data. These kinds of concrete patterns help them to figure out what to do next, if they get into a jam. However, if the jam is completely out of the ordinary, it may throw them off. Those with Inferior or Tertiary Si are usually innovative, daydream-y, occasionally entrepreneurial and sometimes “scattered”.

Types with Dominant Si: ISTJ, ISFJ

Types with Auxiliary Si: ESFJ, ESTJ

Types with Tertiary Si: INFP, INTP

Types with Inferior Si: ENTP, ENFP



Extraverted iNtuition (Ne): Essentially the future-focused version of Se, Ne is active perceiving, but brainstorming about said perceptions, all simultaneously. Ne outwardly brainstorms how all these little things fit into the big picture, instead of possessing Se’s simple, “They’re there, let’s enjoy them,” attitude. They are often innovative, resourceful, and inventive. Types that do not possess this as a Dominant or Aux function ordinarily use it more for things like recreational purposes, such as word puzzles or games, if they use it at all.

Types with Dominant Ne: ENFP, ENTP

Types with Auxiliary Ne: INFP, INTP

Types with Tertiary Ne: ESTJ, ESFJ

Types with Inferior Ne: ISFJ, ISTJ


Introverted iNtuition (Ni):  Future focused and often abstract, this users are very in-their-own worlds, but are surprisingly perceptive and capable of subconsciously picking up on patterns– a reason they are good at learning things like foreign languages. They are innovative and passionate, often seeing things from many different angles at once. Sometimes labelled a bit “spooky” for being able to guess things so well. Those with Inferior Ni often are very “in the moment,” Se people; thinking about what the future holds for them often freaks them out. (These would be the type of people to HAVE “Mid-Life Crisis-es” DURING their mid-life– when Inferior Ni kicks in, and they get more philosophical about their lives. Me? I’ve had mine 10x’s that, starting in TEEN years. Lol.)

Types with Dominant Ni: INTJ, INFJ

Types with Auxiliary Ni: ENTJ, ENFJ

Types with Tertiary Ni: ISTP, ISFP

Types with Inferior Ni: ESTP, ESFP


Note: Statistically, society typically has a greater number of Sensors than it does Intuitives, and Intuitives are often looked at as oddities– yet these oddities somehow end up benefiting society and helping others. For instance, the Biblical Joseph was most likely an xNFJ (unclear whether he was INFJ or ENFJ, but he was definitely a Feeler and Intuitive, and God gave him the wisdom to help plan out a survival plan for His people and Egypt!). However, each type has a part to play in God’s design; we are all important.



Extraverted Feeling (Fe): Making decisions from the heart here, based on subjectivity, worldviews, beliefs, faith, and opinions rather than cold-hearted facts (this is not to say Fe-users cannot be logical– Look at ISTP and INTP, who possess Inferior Fe). Fe is a group-oriented function, and tends to put others before self, even if their own feelings get squashed in the process; in short, they are often people pleasers. However, it can also lead them to be a bit controlling, thinking they know what’s better for the whole than the whole does. People with Inferior or Tertiary Fe tend to be less organized, more logical and objective, and more spontaneous/impulsive.

Types with Dominant Fe: ENFJ, ESFJ

Types with Auxiliary Fe: INFJ, ISFJ

Types with Tertiary Fe: ENTP, ESTP

Types with Inferior Fe: INTP, ISTP


Introverted Feeling (Fi): While still quite emotion-and-beliefs-based, like Fe, Fi differs in that it makes strong personal judgements according to its own beliefs, ideas, and opinions– but often (though not always) will keep them to themselves due to fear of judgement or not wanting to seem “intolerant” of others’ ideals and beliefs. People with Inferior or Tertiary Fi are usually logical, fairly organized, stoic, justice-seekers, but with a “I do what I want, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone physically, I’m good” kind of attitude–they are very firm about and solid on what they believe, and can be more obstinate about said beliefs. Tert and Inferior Fi users also often tend to rationalize their emotions, as a means of “making sense” of what they feel.

Types with Dominant Fi: INFP, ISFP

Types with Auxiliary Fi: ENFP, ESFP

Types with Tertiary Fi: INTJ, ISTJ

Types with Inferior Fi: ENTJ, ESTJ


Note: Those with a Tertiary or Inferior F function often playfully tease/pick on people they care about or are fond of. Statistically speaking, Most men are Thinking types taught to be tough and not show emotion in the usual way, as per society, whereas women tend to be unfairly stereotyped as “sensitive” and “emotional”– because the majority of us are FEELERS! But, I have met men who are Feelers and women who are Thinkers; it’s an odd but fascinating swap. (I’ve at least one male cousin Feeler, one of my younger brothers is a sensitive male Feeler, and several good female friend Thinkers 🙂 ) These people tend to buck the stereotypes of society, and can feel like “outsiders” as a result. So if a T type picks on you playfully, they’re probably fond of you!



Extraverted Thinking (Te):  Concrete, solid, logical , efficient and direct thinkers, they tend to want the facts– and only just the facts (my Dad is definitely a Te user!), just like Holmes. Short, direct, and to the point is what they like– no red herrings, and definitely no sugar-coating. However, they are usually honest with those they care about, and this blunt honesty is often linked to a strong sense of fairness, a willingness to work hard, and integrity. Te-Doms or Auxes are often found in leadership roles (CEOs, military). Those with Inferior or Tertiary Te are normally more scattered, daydream-y, and often artistic and emotional people.

Types with Dominant Te: ENTJ, ESTJ

Types with Auxiliary Te: INTJ, ISTJ

Types with Tertiary Te: ENFP,  ESFP

Types with Inferior Te: INFP, ISFP


Introverted Thinking (Ti): This part of the Thinking Avenue gets trickier to navigate, as it deals with more abstract thought– not just WHAT something is what it is (Te), but WHY it’s that way (Ti). Ti users can make excellent philosophers, scientists, psychologists, etc– but surprisingly, they can also make great mechanics, too (ESTP, ISTP). After all, they need to know WHY the car’s making that noise, not just the obvious fact THAT it’s making the rattle. They look beyond what is in front of them, but still retain the blunt, matter-of-fact manner similar to their Te cousins, which can seem insensitive at times. They can have a bit of a rebellious streak against authority and the status quo, which may also risk getting them in trouble, but to the Ti-user, the pursuit of truth makes it statistically 100% worth it. Those with Tertiary or Inferior Ti are more organized, more concerned about group welfare, and sometimes utilize it to seek truth and justice if needed.

Types with Dominant Ti: INTP, ISTP

Types with Auxiliary Ti: ENTP, ESTP

Types with Tertiary Ti: INFJ, ISFJ

Types with Inferior Ti: ENFJ, ESFJ









A Poem of Appreciation


Jesus left

Us, we


From being


From Him;

But He endow’d

His followers

With Ruach


Many great signs,

Healing, teaching,

But none quite

As bold

As preaching.

Near and far,

Far and wide,

The Mighty Spirit

Hath never

Left their side;

Imbued with

The Holy One’s Power,

They rise up, and

Do not hesitate

To shower

Their congregates

With love, peace, wisdom

And more;

Correction, gentle


Of sin, which

The Almighty abhors.

Indeed, it is the minister

Who helps to pave

The Way,

And battle the sinister.

God bless our pastors,

We love them,

Each one;

They will get

Their due reward;

“Well Done.”



Happy Pastor Appreciation Month!!!



MBTI: The Endearing and Compassionate ENFJs

MBTI: The Endearing and Compassionate ENFJs

So have you ever had that ONE friend? No, not that one weird friend (although, all things considered, 90% of MY friends are “weird,” by normal population standards, so … *inserts cackling face*). I mean the super sweet, doting, generous, GIVING friend– the one who who gives their affection, time, gifts, talents, and yes, advice, to you. They might be an ISFJ, like one of my younger brothers. They might be an INFJ. Or E/INFP. Or ESFJ, like one of my besties.

Or they might be the playfully nicknamed “Mom friend,” ENFJ (a certain ATLA character comes to mind… I’ll shush now, Steve 😉 ).

Empathetic, social, compassionate, and understanding, ENFJs are masterful at reading people, and guessing what it is they want or need. In an unhealthy ENFJ, this can even translate to manipulation in some instances, but usually the motives are unselfish and very caring, because they think they know exactly what said person/people need(s), and will often give struggling loved ones advice on how to proceed with a problem (as well as a sympathetic ear and a comforting hug). Being incredibly giving to other people, it is important to remind them to take time for self-care every now and then. While having strong values due to Fe and Ni, the Dominant Fe’s priority of group care over self-care often (sometimes unfortunately) overrides these individualistic values, leading them to become more placating to their friends and family. This can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation at times for this sensitive type, even when surrounded by people they love and are familiar with.

However, this gregarious, friendly and affectionate type tends to be popular and much-loved by many people. Like ENFPs, they are fun-loving, and they adore people, and genuinely wish to understand them. They are normally intelligent, honest, energetic, and quick-moving– the latters likely due to Tertiary Extraverted Sensing. They can be great leaders, and are often involved on things like committees. Interestingly, they possess a different kind of intellect than their introverted cousins, INFJs, INFPs, and most NT types– they usually don’t care for leisure reading, whether for entertainment or information, unless it is something they are extremely interested in, or captures their interest immediately. They possess a vast emotional and social intellect, which I admire and respect.

I see this a lot in one of my younger cousins (who, as a minor, shall remain unnamed), one of the few, rare ENFJs I am privileged enough to make the acquaintance of. She is popular with her peers, many friends. Very caring and sweet, close with her ESFP and INTJ sisters. She is also quite athletic (Se-attributed, no doubt, and likely encouraged by an Se-Dom father and older sister), and even helps her older sister’s team by keeping score. Yet, she has a deeper side to her that sometimes raises its head when we play games like “Would You Rather?” or just talk about life, and I suspect this to be her Ni at play, though I think she more commonly uses it to understand and relate to her friends and family. Additionally, she often utilizes a combo of Fe-Se to artistically express herself, which she has gotten to be extremely good at. 🙂

ENFJ Cognitive Functional Stack-Up:

Fe (Extraverted Feeling): Conscious function. They tend to make more decisions with their heart, not their head, and since it’s an Extraverted function, it is consciously concerned about doing what is right for the GROUP’s benefit, not just their own. Dominant and Auxiliary Fe and Fi users are often sweet in nature, being pleasant peace-keepers, and Fe in particular genuinely does not wish to upset that (sometimes delicate) balance of peace between friends and family.

Ni (Introverted iNtuition): Unconscious/subconscious function. This function copilots with Fe, and helps the ENFJ understand people so well– how and why they think the way they do, and how that thinking can affect their behavior, and, finally, how that behavior can affect other people— thus, the whole group that Fe is so concerned with. They easily and internally pick up on small, subtle patterns of behavior that can help them help others in the long run, and give ENFJs a sense that they KNOW what they’re talking about, when advising a person. It also gives them a better read on people– whether or not they’re being lied to, for example. Ni is keen when it comes to subconsciously picking up on what isn’t necessarily trustworthy or provable. They thrive on the unknown, the complex.

Se (Extraverted Sensing): Conscious function. This function applies to the concrete, sensory world around the ENFJ in the here and now, and can easily cause them to be great lovers of aesthetics and physical pleasures, like beauty and great quality food. This is a fascinating balance between Ni and Se, because Ni is often concerned with the beauty of the abstract, whereas Se likes things it can physically sense, feel, smell, taste, etc. ENFJs can be connoisseurs of both Sensing and iNtuition, in this case.

Ti (Introverted Thinking): Unconscious/subconscious function, and the ultimate weakness in the ENFJ’s stack-up (THIS, I would wager, is likely why they *usually* don’t like to read for fun. *Usually*. ). This function helps to internally analyze any information the other functions have collected about, well, anything. But since Ti naturally prefers things like, say, mathematical, psychological, or scientific theories, it is often left unused. However, if balanced sufficiently well with the other functions, Ti can actually help the ENFJ strengthen that Ni gut instinct on those patterns, giving them logical reasons why those patterns exist, and helping the ENFJ form a more solid, well-founded opinion/argument (I know, I know– taboo word for us Feelers 😉 ).

Many passionate, world-changing, and visionary people are ENFJ, and often thrive on change that helps others, and makes the world a better place overall. They are compassionate innovators– usually people who want to make a positive difference. Even if it means helping bit-by-bit— because they know it will have a domino effect– by just putting a smile on someone’s face or making their load lighter. They are givers and helpers by nature. Even the ones who have turned to the “dark side,” often have their “moral reasons” for manipulating others, claiming it will benefit all involved, but fortunately, these unhealthy and more controlling ENFJs are relatively few and far in between the healthy, genuinely caring ones.

Overall, ENFJs are normally sweet, outgoing, passionate, understanding, supportive,  giving people who are fun to be around– but may need an occasional nudge for self-care.

Famous/Historical ENFJs: Martin Luther King Jr., Nelson Mandela, Jennifer Lawrence, Dakota Fanning, Maya Angelou, Reese Witherspoon, Andy Griffith



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