Down to Bed, Up to Heaven

Down to Bed, Up to Heaven

Now I lay me

Down to bed,

Closing mine eyes, I

Rest my weary head.

If breath doth fail

Before I awaken,

I do presume, then

My soul to be

Taken

Away from the

Misery

And life’s woes,

No longer worrying

O’er mere earthly foes.

The battle was fought,

The battle was won–

My Lord greets me,

“Dear Friend–

Well Done.”

 

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In loving memory of Jane Moore, mother, grandmother, sister and mother-in-law. Passed away the eve of Sept. 25th, 2018, EST. Age: 87.

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Olivia’s Fictional “NT List”

Olivia’s Fictional “NT List”

 

OK, I know I’ve talked about this numerous times on social media, and even a bit here. So I figured it’s high-time to grab the bull by the horns, so as to speak, and cut to the chase on that list.

But, before we do, some may ask, “What the heck IS an “NT”?”

Oh, I am so glad you asked. (Refer back to my MBTI posts for more refs, especially my INTJ and INTP posts) NTs are one of the four Meyers-Briggs Personality groups, each with four separate sub-groups. To make this simpler:

NTs: INTJs, ENTJs, ENTPs, INTPs

NFs: INFJs, ENFJs, ENFPs, INFPs

STs: ISTJs, ESTJs, ESTPs, ISTPs

SFs: ISFJs, ESFJs, ESFPs, ISFPs

 

NT types tend to be theoretical, highly intelligent, argumentative/”devil’s advocate”, sometimes neurotic, witty, very sarcastic, but generally pretty loyal at their core, and ultimately idealists and truth-seekers. I tend to be attracted the most to these types more than any other MBTI types, and have the tendency to blame my INFJ-ness on that. I noticed a particular pattern of attractions, whether healthy or unhealthy, in YA fiction, and, upon further investigation, realized it was all within the same MBTI group. And more specifically, there was a VERY large crowd of INTJs (that seems to be popular in YA fantasy and sci-fi. You’ll see why momentarily). So, initially, it was the “xNTJ List,” thanks to a certain indie publishing master who helped coin the phrase for me, 😉  (Why not, “INTJ List”? Casimir, an ENTJ, of course made it.).

But then, stuff happened. And I was made to add a couple of ENTPs (who are quite attractive, btw) to the Precious. Thus making me throw my hands up into the stagnant air of my “cave dwelling” (read: my bedroom, which I seldom leave), and yell, “TO HECK WITH IT,” at my ceiling stickered with wall-puttied plastic glow-in-the-dark celestial bits. And thus, the OFFICIAL “Fictional NT Guys L4G Likes in Most Any Way” was birthed. It was a difficult, trying, but nonetheless beautiful birth.

And now it is here for you to peruse at your leisure, to your enjoyment, to your amusement, or perhaps, to your enrage-ment. I do not pretend to share everyone’s fancies of the ideally-typed mate (I know many prefer Elias… Cough… NF type… Cough…Not that there’s anything WRONG with that, being INFJ myself 😉 Just more into NTs) , nor do I pretend that I’d WANT to actually date many of these characters on this list (or that THEY would want to date ME, for that matter… Just ask their authors. LOL.). This is simply a cataloging of personal favorites, and why I like them so much.

And, as per usual, they WILL be somewhat categorized (me being the J-type planner that I am), but they will be listed in no certain order, i.e., from, “least liked to most liked,” etc. Just a regular listing. 🙂

 

WARNING! THERE WILL BE SPOILERS! NOW IS YOUR LAST CHANCE TO BACK OUT!!!

DISCLAIMER: ALL OPINIONS/INSIGHTS ARE MY OWN. I AM NOT BEING PAID TO ADVERTISE ANY BOOKS, ETC., I LOVE THEM THAT MUCH. MY LIST MAY BE EDITED TO INCLUDE MORE CHARACTERS AS I READ MORE, SO FEEL FREE TO CHECK BACK, IF YOU WANT. 

LIVFORGOD’S FICTIONAL MALE NT LIST:

  1. Casimir

MBTI Type: ENTJ

Series: The Star-Fae Trilogy by Sarah Delena White, including Halayda, and soon-to-be-released Rothana. 

Why He Made the Cut: I can empathize with him, even though we would likely clash IRL. I’m genuinely curious about his past. What happened to him that made him want to change his destiny–along with everyone else’s– so bad? Did he see his, and it was so horrid he became determined to change it? According to his author, he is willing to pursue his ideal and objectives for the betterment of everyone (in his eyes), even while sacrificing his own happiness to achieve it. This makes me saddened, and I want him to have at least some sort of happiness in his life. Even if it be Diza 😉 . Plus, he’s got the very cool, “combine magic with alchemy” thing going on, so there’s that, too. This antag’s got the full support of his favorite minion all the way!

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(Yes, IK that is LOTR, but roll with me here– the Star-Fae Trilogy sadly has few, very few, fandom artists…)

2. The Darkling

MBTI Type: INTJ

Series: Both the Shadow and Bone Trilogy and the short story, When Water Sang Fire from The Language of Thorns, by the notorious Leigh Bardugo. Hopefully, more to come… 😉

Why He Made the Cut: Even the author herself has seriously questioned numerous fangirls’ defenses of this guy. My guess on THEIR reasoning is, they like how hot he is, how physically seductive he is. While this played a MINOR factor in my judgement of him, I was seriously impressed by two things– his intellect and his complexity/humanness. Despite him regarding emotions and wanting as weakness (we ALL know that infamous line, c’mon!), as an xNTJ type– we all know he actually has a well-guarded soft side for the Grisha, his people, and for underdogs. He doesn’t open up and show that tertiary Fi too often, but he often takes a personal interest in Alina, her habits, her past, how her day was, if people are picking on her, etc. He personally relates to her, and is shown to respect (even if he sometimes disagrees with) her view in several instances. He even shows a gentler, more sympathetic if defensive/protective side to her, to Genya in The Tailor, and to Sylvi and even Annika in Demon in the Wood. I think, if he hadn’t been driven pride-, ambition-, and power-mad, he genuinely would have been a good person. We see those glimpses of goodness in him– he just doesn’t want to be alone.

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3. Sorek 

MBTI Type: ENTP

Series: The Purification Era Series by Angie Grigaliunas

Why He Made the Cut: OK, initially, with this guy– I was not planning on letting him onto this list. No way, no how. I viewed him as a total BLEEP who deserved to go to you-know-where with what he fake-tried to do to Rab (though I can understand why he did it). But the more I got to know him, the more I thought, “Hey, he’s like a more complex version of Nikolai!” And guess what? It’s true. He may not be a pirate or royalty, but he knows how to chameleon very well, to blend in and act with all of his “peers” at the time– something Bardugo only touches on a few times, and that Angie delves into deeply. His complexity is seriously impressive, and his snarkiness, particularly with his crush Rab, made Nik’s actually look fairly tame– all while having me howling and rolling on the floor, clutching my stomach. He is also secretly VERY compassionate, and goes out of his way to help others if they genuinely need it.

Sorek

4. Hideo Tanaka

MBTI Type: INTJ

Series: Warcross duology by Marie Lu

Why He Made the Cut: Ok, I swear Lu’s been peeking at Bardugo’s notes for Darky. Hot, mysterious, high-profile leader/boss guy with shrouded past? Check. Intense, innovative, idealistic intellect that he could use to take over countries with? Double check. Carefully but casually selected a seemingly nobody girl with special abilities and potential, ends up falling for her, hard, and flirts with her in a very coy, subtle, and VERY INTJ way? Triple check. Oh, and let’s not forget the mental and emotional link Darky and Alina had sounds remarkably similar to LINK WITH HIDEO? But, I’m not here to discuss character similarities. All that to say, Hideo is a complex, protective, guarded individual and 21 yo company head honcho who is basically a well-meaning-genius-who-goes-wrong-temporarily, and does everything he can for the sake of his family, his loved ones (including Emika, who he tries to protect numerous times, as well– and she, him. They are adorable, I’ll admit it. INTJ-INTP pairing, right there. Sigh….). Sold.

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4. Nikolai Lantsov

MBTI Type: ENTP (100% certain)

Series: The Shadow and Bone Trilogy, Crooked Kingdom, and, soon, King of Scars, by Leigh Bardugo

Why He Made the Cut: Pirate… err, Privateer. Snarkiest man alive on the high seas, matey, and the most charismatic, too. He gives great, fairly sound advice, especially on politics. I think the only ones he’s failed to fully and successfully charm are Alina and the Darkling, who, on two different accounts, find him either somewhat annoying, or very annoying/a threat. Unlike his childish, perv father, and horrid half-brother, he actually cares about his country and its inhabitants, and is extremely loyal to them and his friends. Oh, and did I mention he’s an undercover Prince/now-King in disguise? I didn’t? Oh, well, there’s this, too…

“”Not bad looking?” said another voice. “He’s damnably handsome.”

Luchenko scowled. “Since when–“

“Brave in battle, smart as a whip.” Now the voice seemed to be coming from above us. Luchenko craned his neck, peering into the trees. “An excellent dancer,” said the voice. “Oh, and an even better shot.”

“Who–” Luchenko never got to finish. A blast rang out, and a tiny black hole appeared between his eyes.

I gasped. “Imposs-“

“Don’t say it,” muttered Mal.

Then chaos erupted. ” (excerpt from  Ruin and Rising by Leigh Bardugo, pg. 119.)

I rest my case.

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(In honor of King of Scars, and the King of witty Scarcasm. Hope I’ve made ya proud, Leigh. 😉 )

5. AIDAN (Artificial Intelligence Defense Analytics System) 

MBTI Type: INTJ

Series: The Illuminae Files by Amie Kaufman and Jay Kristoff.

Why He/It Made the Cut:  AIDAN is technically a machine, a program, so as far as the story is concerned, and is one of those characters that I think was extremely well written, and well-developed, but at the same time, just because I like a character doesn’t mean I have to naturally agree with their worldview, and I definitely heavily disagree with the majority of AIDAN’s. Kristoff, the primary writer of AIDAN in particular, seems to have a natural knack for getting you to root for all the charmingly beasty AIs who’re seriously crushing on their human girl heroines (no, I’m not joking here). Even though it’s crazy and weird and kinda sorta unnatural. Just kinda sorta. (Read: <ERROR> I was so <ERROR> distraught when <ERROR> AIDAN did not get to <ERROR> confess his/it love <ERROR> to Kady that first time… <ERROR><ERROR>) He/it is just this… mechanized, artificial version of a classic INTJ. 90% logical, 10% emotional. A tough exoskeleton on the outside, softer wires and a heart-chip ready and willing to be broken (for Kady’s sake) on the inside. Never mind that he/it is a terror and a genius at getting people killed in a “merciful” way, if it means preserving Kady– and as much of his/its fleet– as possible. He/It will do anything he/it can to protect them, even if only by the most extreme means. He/It narrates much of the story, when it’s not in text/documented format, and shows a more artistic, very poetical side to him/it, and even referring to Kady as his/its “queen,” in a chess-sense, at one point. He/it tends to be a subtle romantic, but ultimately discloses his/its feelings for her at the end. T.T #WhyMustYouAuthorsBreakMyHeart

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6. Lord Masrekah

MBTI Type: INTJ

Series: The Purification Era Series by Angie Grigaliunas

Why He Made the Cut: For a while, like Sorek, I didn’t with this guy. I just didn’t. He wasn’t quite as brutal with Rab as Sorek had been when he tested her fealty to rebellion, but I still got a vibe from him I wasn’t sure about. Turns out, again, we have another Darky-ish dude running around town square– albeit a blonder, more militarized version. 😉 His softer side does poke its head out with Ari, though, and we learn he genuinely regrets being a total BLEEP to Rab, but due to male-esque pride, won’t up and apologize to her for it (not that she’d believe him, anyways. LOL.). He’s clearly affectionate towards Ari, Rab’s younger sister (something Rab is not pleased about), but is well-meaning and respectful, as well as extremely protective of her (love that feature about INTJ dudes… SO LOYAL AND FREAKING PROTECTIVE, LIKE, “I DON’T WANT MY LOVED ONES AND MY SMOL CINNAMON ROLL BABIES TO GET HURT HERE BUT NEVER GONNA SAY THAT OUT LOUD K BYE” xD). Mas also, just like the Darkling, has something of a soft spot for animals, judging on his connection with his horse, Scourge. 🙂

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7. Prince Zephryn Nightstalker

MBTI Type: INTJ

Series: The Ironfire Legacy Series by Janeen Ippolito (aka, “Janeen the Snark Queen” 😉 )

Why He Made the Cut: Evil genius-evil=Genius. MAJOR bookworm and recluse, yet caring and protective in his own dragonish, INTJ way. Love his bluntness, and willingness to stand up for Kesia, even when she’s the one cutting herself down. Definitely a brainiac and a constant knowledge-seeker; there’s no problem a book can’t help fix/advise on!

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Trigger Finger (previously entitled, “Trigger’d”)

Trigger Finger (previously entitled, “Trigger’d”)

Red

Is all I see

Reflecting off the comments,

Right back at me.

My heart revs like a

Car doing seventy

In a thirty; my

Hands quake, as though

Naught could

Slake

My nerves’ anxiety.

 

The words, so

Carelessly

Typed–

Weren’t they out

Of angst, anger, or some

Other injustice, even

Murder?–

Pierc’d my vessel

Straight to my

Soul,

Making my skin

Flush more crimson

Than hot coals;

My shaky hands, I try

To control

Because

If I do

Not

Then my

Whole

Being

And Nature

Is subject

To the

Sin.

 

I swallow, I weep,

I breathe, then

After

Thought…

Delete.

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MBTI: The INTP Inventors

MBTI: The INTP Inventors

Hey, guys!

So, remember how a little while ago I promised that Steve and I would do a double-whammy of posts this week into a little bit of next week? About to happen right now, my friends.

Tonight, we’re actually giving you the lowdown on Steve’s MBTI type, actually– the INTPs. They’re very similar to INTJs in many ways– generally very objective-minded, blunt, brilliant, sarcastic, loyal to friends and family, and like many Intuitives in general,  highly theoretical. Like most NTs, they are unafraid to objectively debate and argue to test out novel ideas (though perhaps not quite to the extent of their Extraverted cousin, ENTP), and are constantly working on generating new theories and ideas (often getting excited about these theories and ideas in the process). They are the classic, “absent-minded professor,” but don’t let that fool you– once you have them on a theoretical roll, it can be pretty tough to try to stop that avalanche!

Here’s how the INTP stacks up:

INTP Cognitive Functionary Stack-up:

Introverted Thinking (Ti)– Unconscious/subconscious function. Rather than JUST looking at solid, concrete facts, Ti has the tendency to look more into the internal MEANING behind those facts, the actual ideas/theories themselves, although INTPs are still highly logical people. Bringing order and meaning to their inner worlds, and based on this worldview, they are inclined to view many things as personal goals or challenges– perhaps one of the biggest reasons they like to debate in an intellectually stimulating way. While they can impose rules/standards upon themselves, they are inclined to break them due to their disruptive Ne copilot. They often find it easier to use Ti to uncover what is UNTRUE rather than what IS true.

Extraverted iNtuition (Ne)– Conscious function, akin and similar to outwardly brainstorming. They may not often always have a point, while outwardly expressing Ne, but consciously works to gather data; however, unlike Se, it continuously chooses to test the data, scanning for connected relationships to other facts or consistent patterns. It helps them to remain open-minded, and grasp as many possibilities as possible. We’ll see how that comes into play in just a bit. 😉

Introverted Sensing (Si)– Unconscious/subconscious function. Uses past experience to notify the brainy Ti, while the ever-curious Ne immediately brainstorms a good solution on the spot. But more commonly, it is used to establish some sort of familiarity and routine; INTPs are more of the type to “eat to live,” rather than their “live to eat” Se cousins. However, it can work in conjunction with Ti to look even beyond the bodily senses, to something deeper within the body’s state of being.

Extraverted Feeling (Fe)– Conscious function, seldom used. Because it is the Inferior function, this makes INTPs particularly uncomfortable and hesitant in emotional situations, such as funerals. Because of the Fe’s concern of maintaining outward group harmony, they may not express their feelings to avoid general, unnecessary conflict, although they are often viewed as “artificial peacekeepers,” since it is the Inferior function, and not normally too high on their list of priorities. But in positive terms, this is sometimes how an INTP shows affection, whether platonic (as Steve does with me) or romantic– by playfully teasing in using Fe. They will often playfully call you a nickname, like “Goober,” “Dork,” etc. to show they care about you, though this can seem counter-intuitive at the time.

I know several officially untyped INTPs (namely secular authors), and 2-3 officially confirmed INTPs, two professor friends/acquaintances (surprise, surprise… “absent-minded professor,” literally, here. 😉 ), my male college Engineer buddy, and Steve. So yes, there WILL be a few(albeit relevant) examples in this post.

If they are healthy, well-functioning INTPs, they will frequently utilize a “trial and error” kind of approach in dealing with facts, theories, and ideas– this helps them root out the true from the false. They start out with their Dominant brainy Ti, then use the Auxiliary Ne to idea-seek/sort through all the various possibilities. Additionally, they’ll sometimes employ their Si if they need to see if any past experiences or past gained knowledge will affect any of said possibilities, or may even offer un-thought-of ones.

Like some FJ types, many INTPs like to teach and gift the world with their expansive knowledge on the things they know best– but that can be a hair problematic with expressing direct judgements at times. They often prefer doing so with the brainstorming-on-the-fly Ne than their Inferior Fe rabbit trails. Because of Ne, they often expect pupils to catch on to concepts fast, like they do, and to make intelligent but well-informed, accurate decisions in the classroom and in life. I saw this VERY clearly in my particular Political Science Professor Who Shall Remain Unnamed (but for you fellow G alumni, and students of that school– you KNOW who I mean!), when he taught. Some people didn’t like him because he graded very hard, and often challenged common ways of thinking in the classroom; very commonly portraying himself as– almost literally at one point–“the devil’s advocate”(causing me to initially mistype him as an ENTP, but outside his classroom he is actually quite socially awkward, and prefers solitude in his office). He is open-minded enough to give students’ political or financial theories the benefit of the doubt, and is very willing and capable to test them to see if they would actually work. He seemed to have respect for those who could toe-to-toe challenge him in return, and think on the fly a bit, and expresses his Inferior Fe in trying to be playful and pick on every single person in the room for some kind of answer or example, so no one gets left out, but also knows where to draw the line if he goes a bit far.

Speaking of the Inferior Fe, as mentioned before, many INTPs express this in a kind of light-hearted banter and teasing. My bud Steve often expresses friendship in playful jest or banter with me, and my college friend Hunter liked snarking with close friends, or playfully sneaking up on then “jumping” me if he saw me walking around nearby. But Hunter’s Fe is particularly strong, even as a brilliant INTP; he is openly kind and chivalrous to many of his gal pals, the kind of dude who’d open doors for girls or walk them back to their homes at night so they didn’t have to go out by themselves. He is as much a good sport as he is good with objective advice. Steve, too, is great with advice and is very considerate and understanding in that objective INTP way.

However, as is the case with all types, not everything comes up roses with INTPs (as many would probably tell you, themselves– it would be illogical to think otherwise, after all 😉 ). Like INTJs, the “cold logic” side of them that often smacks people first can appear as aloof, stand-offish, insensitive or rude, when they are simply stating the facts as bluntly as possible (aka, one of the reasons I get on with them fairly well. LOL.). This can rub peacemaking types the wrong way, especially since this is a type that likes to test the waters of their own ideas before deciding to set sail in them– even if that means debating the crap out of said ideas and theories in order to test them. They like to make sure things are true before committing, and are very reluctant to lie or sugarcoat, if at all. They are usually not in-tune with emotions as well as Feeler types, and this can easily lead to some miscommunication and injured feelings between the types, if not handled properly. Being Thinkers with Inferior Fe, INTPs can easily override and almost completely detach from Fe altogether, acting as though they didn’t exist (and somewhat fulfilling the “cold robot” stereotype), this may be to help cope in certain circumstances, such as tragedy or loss, and help them to  bounce back quicker. This can obviously seem insensitive to Feelers, who may still openly be in mourning over the event.

Famous/Historical INTPs: Albert Einstein, Bill Gates, Kierkegaard, Abraham Lincoln, John Locke, Immanuel Kant, Rene Descartes

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Sources:

https://www.idrlabs.com/intp.php

https://personalityjunkie.com/famous-intps-12-case-studies/

https://personalityjunkie.com/the-intp/

http://www.personalitypage.com/html/INTP.html

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MBTI: The ESFP Entertainers

MBTI: The ESFP Entertainers

Hey guys, so this week we’re doing things a bit differently. I know I said we’d be doing Mon.-Tues. nights, but something came up, so this week’ll be Tues.-Wed. night, instead. Additionally, we’ll be hitting the next MBTI post up on Saturday or Sunday, rather than next week, and will try to post more on weekends instead of the previously agreed Mon.-Tues. evenings. We apologize for any confusion.

So, we’ve been discussing the deeper or more serious side of MBTI so far– INTJ, ISTJ, and even ENFP (as fun-loving as the latters usually are) can be deep-thinking people who tend to ponder the consequences of their actions a bit more…

Well, tonight we are about to take a one-way plane ticket nose-dive straight into Se-Land. Yes, that’s right– the infamous Se. So far, we’ve done Ni-Dominant, Si-Dominant, and Ne-Dominant– and we’ve talked more than enough about the “YOLO” Se on the side. So why the heck not?

ESFPs tend to be friendly, sociable, popular and well-liked, much like their Ne-Dom cousins, but are definitely even more “live for the moment,” people, thanks to Se, causing them to be quite spontaneous and adaptable. The combo of Se and Aux Fi can make them quite competitive (more on that in a bit), but thanks to that Aux Fi, they are also caring, on a more personal level. They are generally outgoing and love having fun, love hanging out with others; often comical, throwing parties, or providing cheery support to friends and family. They adore being the front and center of attention, and often love performing, whether it be comedy, sports, musically, acting, etc. This is a type that likes to live life to the fullest. They help teach us to live in the moment, make those moments count each day, and to stop and smell the roses every once in a while.

ESFP Cognitive Functional Stack-Up:

Se (Extraverted Sensing): Conscious function. Main contributer to the “YOLO,” outlook, this function focuses on experiencing the moment with your senses, whether it be touch, taste, smell, sight, or sound. They tend to prefer their surroundings in the here and now, than their inner worlds. They often have great aesthetic tastes because of this trait, in many different things.

Fi (Introverted Feeling): Unconscious/subconscious function. Makes decisions with the heart rather than the head, only on a personal level. Focuses on individual emotional wants, needs, morals, beliefs, likes and dislikes. If they meet someone with similar values and feelings, they often connect well and empathize deeply. ESFPs tend to make decisions based off of their own feelings and surrounding circumstances, although they tend to be people-pleasers and often crave personal appreciation/affirmation from others.

Te (Extraverted Thinking): Conscious function. While not used all too often (I would wager school is the biggest trigger in it for ESFPs who want to do well), ESFPs do have a practical, smart, concrete and down-to-earth side that comes out from time to time, especially if they need to be realistic about something.

Ni (Introverted iNtuition): Unconscious/subconscious function. This is the least used function in the ESFP’s stack-up. Since it’s not in a higher position, it makes using it a tad awkward at times for this outwardly-oriented type. ESFPs can access it, but usually through Te and logical means. They don’t care much for deep, abstract thoughts like their Ne cousins, and prefer the current (and very sensory) world around them.

Because they obviously rely heavily on Sensory experiences in the here and now, these types are great for spontaneously entertaining (think stand-up comedy or improvising on the spot with acting); they also often do well in the arts, thanks to a handy combination of Se (Sensory) and Fi (personal tastes and judgements). Many ESFPs are amazing athletes, like my younger cousin (who happens to be in several different sports, including volleyball, basketball, softball…), because Se helps them make split-second decisions in the moment to help them win the gold. To an Intuitive or a Dominant/Aux Si-user, this can seem a little absurd, but when Te tag teams with Se, it can help them make those split-second decisions a bit more logically.

However, ESFPs also unfortunately have a bit of a reputation for being shallow, pleasure-seeking people– most likely due to a more unhealthy combination of Se and Fi, sometimes leading to less-than-wise decisions (and thus causing the later hard-hitting Te to face-palm). However, this is probably due in part to the Auxiliary Fi’s personal moral integrity, and not wishing to upset anyone (or themselves– as Feelers, they can be quite sensitive), and would rather not discuss anything negative. They are often more optimistic and fun-loving to balance this trait out.

 

Historical ESFPs: Pablo Picasso, Marilyn Monroe, Ronald Reagan, Elvis Presley, Judy Garland

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Sources:

https://www.truity.com/personality-type/ESFP

http://www.humanmetrics.com/personality/esfp

http://www.personalitypage.com/html/ESFP.html

 

MBTI: ISTJ– Slow, Steady and Dutiful Wins the Race

MBTI: ISTJ– Slow, Steady and Dutiful Wins the Race

Hey, everyone! Time for your weekly dosage of Myers-Briggs personality type theory! 🙂

This week, we’re zooming out from one of the rarest personality types (INTJs) to the statistically most common type (ISTJs). We’ll explain how just ONE letter difference can make a HUGE difference in how they think, even though both possess Auxiliary Te and Tertiary Fi!

ISTJ Cognitive Function Stack-Up:

Si (Introverted Sensing)– unconscious, relies on past experiences to deal with the present situation, future situations

Te (Extraverted Thinking)– conscious, concrete (as opposed to the more meaning-searching Ti), factual, logical, practical.

Fi (Introverted Feeling)– unconscious, individualistic (as opposed to group-oriented Fe), subjective opinions/beliefs, personal tastes, feelings, morals and values.

Ne (Extraverted Intuition)– conscious but not often used unless under duress; generating/connecting ideas, seeing possibilities. While rarely seen (since it is a rather quirky function, and ISTJs tend to be on the quieter, more traditional, reserved side), it sometimes pops in during pieces of gossip, or while pursuing mind-stimulating hobbies, often in conjunction with Si and Te.

Similar to INTJs, ISTJs are also very brainy, very Te-oriented– but the main difference here lies within their Dominant Function, Ni (INTJ) vs. Si (ISTJ). Ni Dominant or Auxiliaries tend to be future-forward innovators, whereas Si Dominant or Auxiliaries tend to be more traditional, relying on what’s happened (or what they’ve seen happen) in the past. They view that experience as invaluable to helping them through life, “If I did X and combined that with the Z factor, I know I got Y. So, naturally, if I do that again now, it’s likely to be the same result.” Unlike their Se, very “YOLO” cousins, Dom/Aux Si users prefer a more routine, predictable lifestyle, rather than a carefree or innovative one. They have more of a tendency to be organized rule-followers than rule-breakers. However, like their Ni cousins, they can often be obstinate and like things their way, but may be open to ideas that seem effective or efficient, and will help them. Good old-fashioned hard work and responsibility mean a lot to this type, and blowing off work to chill while everyone else is still slaving away is an offense not to be taken too lightly by the ISTJ.

Hardworking and realistic, practical and logical, the ISTJ is the epitome of the old saying, “the squeaky wheel gets the grease.” Predictability, through Si, helps them know what to do next– one of the reasons why spontaneity throws them for a loop and often aggravates them (and are ironically often attracted to or paired with a NP or a SP to help balance out that SJ. My parents, for instance, are ISTJ and ISFP respectively. My dad’s the ISTJ.). That is not to say they can’t adapt at times, but they usually prefer having at least a heads-up so they know how to plan around whatever is going on (the same holds true for their Ni cousins, again, in this). This is one type that does not like surprise birthday parties, so you may do better with a half-surprise– tell them something’s going on Friday night, but keep a secret what exactly the surprise is. This is also how they tackle most issues, through a combo of Si-Te, to logically and factually use the previous know-how conveniently stored their trusty tool kit. And thus, the day is officially, once again, saved thanks to handy-dandy facts and practicality. Crisis averted. 🙂

Since their Introverted Feeling is, well, introverted– they are usually not big on showing their emotions and private values or beliefs to just anyone, and are very private about them. And since Te has priority over Fi, ISTJs often isolate their emotions and zero in on controlling their environment via Te. This is actually one of the ways an ISTJ will show affection– you’ll know one cares about you, if they take you places at their own expense, make sure you’re take care of physically and financially, never in want, and overall content/happy. My father does this for us, our church, and my grandma (his mom, and another ISTJ).  Nevertheless, the more they tap into Fi aside from Te and Si, the more they come to realize their personal (and often subjective!) emotions and beliefs, as well as the emotions and values of others, and that their preferences are not always restricted solely to logic or experience. This can help them become more caring and understanding towards others, despite any differences in personality or opinions.

Historical/Famous ISTJs: George Washington, Pope Benedict XVI, Thomas Hobbes, Sigmund Freud, Thomas “Stonewall” Jackson

 

Sources: MBTI Guy, https://www.personalityclub.com/blog/famous-istj/ , https://personalityjunkie.com/istj/

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Image Credit: https://www.biography.com/people/george-washington-9524786

 

 

 

MBTI: The INTJ Masterminds

MBTI: The INTJ Masterminds

Hi, everyone! So, important announcement… Today is the first official type post day! *throws confetti gleefully* 😀 (Sorry to all you Thinkers, that was my Fe acting up. Lol.)

So, here’s how we’ll normally do a MBTI type post: Cognitive function stack-ups, how this manifests the type’s personality in the real world/characteristics, and give you a rough idea of their worldview (how they view themselves, others, the world in general, and problems), maybe how we can understand them better (or, that may be a sub-post. Just saying.), and maybe a real-life example (was going to do fictional characters, but that, along with celebs, is a bit cliche and unnecessary– so instead we’re doing more of historical characters, and *maybe* one or two personal examples 😉 I’ve a couple good ones here, for INTPs… ) if we’ve time. But, since we’ve already covered the functional stack-ups of the INTJ in our previous post on that topic (because examples are wonderful things), I figured, we can just cut to the bone here.

So, the cognitive stack-ups show us the order in which functions are used, the matter of functional preference– and, in this case, which functions the type allows you to witness.

INTJs, due to having Fi and Se as Tertiary and Inferior functions, can be or feel a bit socially awkward, and sometimes cover for this with a calm, polite, if a little aloof facade. Contrary to the social norm, due to the complexity of their Ni and the brainy Te, INTJs usually prefer having their noses in a book, hands and mind working on some complex project that many people may not understand. Now, that doesn’t mean they are stand-offish or entirely unsocial. They tend to cautiously dip their toes into the shallow end of the social people with others, particularly strangers, before conversing (kudos to the cool cat who got that reference from said INTJ, btw. 😉 ). For instance, when I first met my future besties (two of which were INTJ twins), the twins were a little distant. Not cold or anything, distant. Cautious. Feeling me out, vibe-wise, with that unconscious Ni, while slowly but surely getting to know me. Now that SEVEN years have passed, they’ve peeled back a few of those layers for me, to reveal warmer, more caring, and at times very fun-loving, underbellies. And once you’re friends with an INTJ, you’re often with them for life. They are loyal to the end (which is why most of this incredibly guarded type have an relatively low tolerance scale for betrayal…). But they are very smart and cautious about who they let into their inner circle of good friends.

Ni-dominant, they are generally also very innovative, inventive, creative, and future-oriented. They use inferior Se to detect things at that time and place, and Ni uses those things to subconsciously go, “Ah HAH!” This is why they seem to know people so well, how they know what might just happen if you hypothetically did XYZ instead of ABC. It often frustrates them that others don’t notice or seem to care, even when said INTJ is trying to give advice on or critique things that matter a lot to them or to people they care about– only to have said advice/critique brushed away carelessly. The INTJ cannot stand incompetence (it therefore blows my mind that I’VE so many INTJ female friends and acquaintances, haha…), this is one of their major pet peeves. But if you’re a competent individual with incredible know-how in your field, it is very likely they’ll respect you for that, or ask your opinion on something related to it. This is one way you’ll know they like you for who you are. INTJs don’t do fake, they look for truth, authenticity. In fact, they are probably one of the least likely to be conned or manipulated types (them, and INTPs). They generally hate deceit, which is likely why they take betrayals so badly.

Additionally, being in the NT group, they are a very argumentative and sarcastic type, which can be a turn-off to some, particularly to those who don’t like conflict. But they rarely get personal in these arguments, as they are not fans of ad hominem, and have a strong sense of justice (and are capable of telling how far is too far in pushing someone). One of the twins told me, for instance, once how she was arguing with a girl in an online university group over proper attire for young women to wear at a Christian school. (My bestie was in favor of pants, but of course.) Said INTJ twin used only facts and pure logic to argue and back up her point, while the other girl, becoming increasingly frustrated, started to personally attack while recycling her previous points, and essentially swimming around in a meager argumentative circle, not making any progress. (Basically, the INTJ bestie destroyed her argument 🙂 ) They don’t always argue to say they disagree, however– this is something common with many NT types. They will sometimes test an idea, maybe even your own idea, by arguing against it to see how strongly it stands up to criticism, if it’s for real. In a sense, depending on the circumstance, this can be considered a huge compliment; they don’t do this with just anyone’s ideas!

Understanding INTJs: Being the second to rarest type (INFJ just barely beats it there), INTJs can often and easily be misunderstood. But one of the things to remember about them is: give respect if you want respect. Listen to and consider what they have to say, at least, even if you don’t fully agree with them. They  generally value competence (being good at what you do, and knowing how to do it right) and uniqueness, and often, since healthy ones are typically advocates for justice and honesty, look out for the underdog, if they can. While they do, like all types, have a dark side if pushed to it, they make excellent, highly intelligent, and very loyal friends and family members who aren’t afraid of NOT sugarcoating the truth, if you ask for it.

 

Historical INTJs: Nikola Tesla, C.S. Lewis, Susan B. Anthony, Isaac Newton, John Maynard Keynes, Martin Luther, Sylvia Plath, G.W.F. Hegel– to name a few!

 

Famous person source:

https://www.personalityclub.com/blog/famous-intj/

 

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Image Credit:

https://www.personalityclub.com/blog/famous-intj/

Psychological help/Credit: Steve Brock, aka “The MBTIGuy”