MBTI Function Stack-Up

So, we’ve been chatting a lot about MBTI types, Cognitive Function Stack-ups, and what those stack-ups mean for us, exactly (as well as how we apply them to everyday life and problems, or interactions with others). But one thing I’ve realized that we HAVEN’T discussed yet (don’t worry, we’ll get to shadow functions, eventually 😉 ) is the functions, themselves. There are four BASIC FUNCTIONS, Sensing, iNtuition (there’s a reason I wrote it like that), Feeling, and Thinking. Then each branches off into its more specific area of expertise– extraverted this or that, introverted this or that. Think of it in this light– If you go to college or uni, you have different departments, right? Well, in EACH department, there are SPECIFIC (but related!) majors you can be. In Engineering, for instance, you could be an Electrical Engineering Major, a Bio-Engineering Major, etc. In our English Department, you can be a regular English Major, an English Literature Major, an English Writing Major (Me!), and so on. Same application here: We have introverted functions, and we have extraverted functions– Se, Si, Ne, Ni, Fe, Fi, Te, and Ti. Following me so far? OK, good.

(Note: This post is going to be more of a summary post, but we’ll get into the major nitty-gritty differences later on! You guys already kind of know the difference between Se and Si; I’ve explained it before.)

As a refresher, and as previously stated, any function that is Extraverted is usually conscious/more apparent. You are normally aware you are using it. That is often why Dominant or Auxiliary Te users, for instance, can come off as know-it-alls, but really don’t mean to seem that way (think a certain character from a certain popular fictional franchise…), they’re just brilliant and honest about their brains, while being quieter (and somewhat humbler) about things like being compassionate and sweet (when they are, it’s usually more subtle and very endearing little moments). With Introverted functions, they are usually internal, subconscious, or “concealed”. No matter what your type, your first two functions will always be some sort of pairing between Extraverted and Introverted, but whether you are actually an Extravert or an Introvert yourself decides which function comes FIRST. For instance, one of my younger cousins is an ENFJ, an Extravert. She leads (Dominant) with Fe, co-piloted with Ni, balanced out somewhat with Se, and ending with Ti. As an Extravert, Fe is naturally Dominant. On the other, I myself am INFJ– an Introvert. The primary differences between my cousin and I is that our Dominant and Auxiliary functions are swapped, then our Tertiary and Inferior functions. (Note: My Ti is my Tertiary, and my Se is my Inferior) I lead with Ni, Introverted iNtuition, rather than Fe, because I am actually introverted! However, because Ni is unconscious and more underlying, more subtle, my Fe surfaces a LOT more, and, since it is an extraverted function, many assume me to be an Extravert, because I seem naturally warm, social, friendly, outgoing, etc (traits normally stereotyped with Extraverts, btw). This can cause what I like to call, “Ambivert Confusion”. There are introverted Extraverts, and there are extraverted Introverts, but no in between. It is, however, easy to confuse due to the functional stack-up. The key is to remember that Introverts always lead with an Introverted function, and Extraverts with Extraverted functions. It has nothing to do with how quiet or outgoing you are– I’ve met silent Extraverts who are great listeners, and talkative Introverts who can be loud (and, depending on the person, occasionally obnoxious 😉 ). It all boils down to HOW you get your energy (being around people, or being by yourself), how you perceive the world (big picture/intuition vs. details/sensory experiences), how you make decisions (heart/faith/emotions/beliefs vs. brain/intellect/facts/logic), and sometimes, how organized/plan-based vs. adaptable/spontaneous you are.

So, here’s the Low-Down on each function, specifically, and in which types it can be found in:


Extraverted Sensing (Se): Very “YOLO,” live in the moment kind of people. Rather perceptive to sensory details in the present, since it is solely a Perceiving function– its goal is to drink in sensory information (Ne takes it in, but simultaneously processes it/brainstorms what the info MEANS). Can behave in a childlike, impulsive manner at times. Types that have this attribute as an Inferior Function can be extremely sensitive to or bothered by outside stimuli.

Types with Dominant Se: ESFP, ESTP

Types with Auxiliary Se: ISTP, ISFP

Types with Tertiary Se: ENTJ, ENFJ

Types with Inferior Se: INFJ, INTJ


Introverted Sensing (Si): While still focused on sensory details and quite observant, these users tend to focus on past experiences, and relay them to what’s going on in the present, or guess what will happen in the future purely with past data. These kinds of concrete patterns help them to figure out what to do next, if they get into a jam. However, if the jam is completely out of the ordinary, it may throw them off. Those with Inferior Si are usually innovative, daydream-y, occasionally entrepreneurial and sometimes “scattered”.

Types with Dominant Si: ISTJ, ISFJ

Types with Auxiliary Si: ESFJ, ESTJ

Types with Tertiary Si: INFP, INTP

Types with Inferior Si: ENTP, ENFP



Extraverted iNtuition (Ne): Essentially the future-focused version of Se, Ne is active perceiving, but brainstorming about said perceptions, all simultaneously. Ne outwardly brainstorms how all these little things fit into the big picture, instead of possessing Se’s simple, “They’re there, let’s enjoy them,” attitude. They are often innovative, resourceful, and inventive. Types that do not possess this as a Dominant or Aux function ordinarily use it more for things like recreational purposes, such as word puzzles or games, if they use it at all.

Types with Dominant Ne: ENFP, ENTP

Types with Auxiliary Ne: INFP, INTP

Types with Tertiary Ne: ESTJ, ESFJ

Types with Inferior Ne: ISFJ, ISTJ


Introverted iNtuition (Ni):  Future focused and often abstract, this users are very in-their-own worlds, but are surprisingly perceptive and capable of subconsciously picking up on patterns– a reason they are good at learning things like foreign languages. They are innovative and passionate, often seeing things from many different angles at once. Sometimes labelled a bit “spooky” for being able to guess things so well. Those with Inferior Ni often are very “in the moment,” Se people; thinking about what the future holds for them often freaks them out. (These would be the type of people to HAVE “Mid-Life Crisis-es” DURING their mid-life– when Inferior Ni kicks in, and they get more philosophical about their lives. Me? I’ve had mine 10x’s that, starting in TEEN years. Lol.)

Types with Dominant Ni: INTJ, INFJ

Types with Auxiliary Ni: ENTJ, ENFJ

Types with Tertiary Ni: ISTP, ISFP

Types with Inferior Ni: ESTP, ESFP


Note: Statistically, society typically has a greater number of Sensors than it does Intuitives, and Intuitives are often looked at as oddities– yet these oddities somehow end up benefiting society and helping others. For instance, the Biblical Joseph was most likely an xNFJ (unclear whether he was INFJ or ENFJ, but he was definitely a Feeler and Intuitive, and God gave him the wisdom to help plan out a survival plan for His people and Egypt!). However, each type has a part to play in God’s design; we are all important.



Extraverted Feeling (Fe): Making decisions from the heart here, based on subjectivity, worldviews, beliefs, faith, and opinions rather than cold-hearted facts (this is not to say Fe-users cannot be logical– Look at ISTP and INTP, who possess Inferior Fe). Fe is a group-oriented function, and tends to put others before self, even if their own feelings get squashed in the process; in short, they are often people pleasers. However, it can also lead them to be a bit controlling, thinking they know what’s better for the whole than the whole does. People with Inferior or Tertiary Fe tend to be less organized, more logical and objective, and more spontaneous/impulsive.

Types with Dominant Fe: ENFJ, ESFJ

Types with Auxiliary Fe: INFJ, ISFJ

Types with Tertiary Fe: ENTP, ESTP

Types with Inferior Fe: INTP, ISTP


Introverted Feeling (Fi): While still quite emotion-and-beliefs-based, like Fe, Fi differs in that it makes strong personal judgements according to its own beliefs, ideas, and opinions– but often (though not always) will keep them to themselves due to fear of judgement or not wanting to seem “intolerant” of others’ ideals and beliefs. People with Inferior or Tertiary Fi are usually logical, fairly organized, stoic, justice-seekers, but with a “I do what I want, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone physically, I’m good” kind of attitude–they are very firm about and solid on what they believe, and can be more obstinate about said beliefs. Tert and Inferior Fi users also often tend to rationalize their emotions, as a means of “making sense” of what they feel.

Types with Dominant Fi: INFP, ISFP

Types with Auxiliary Fi: ENFP, ESFP

Types with Tertiary Fi: INTJ, ISTJ

Types with Inferior Fi: ENTJ, ESTJ


Note: Those with a Tertiary or Inferior F function often playfully tease/pick on people they care about or are fond of. Statistically speaking, Most men are Thinking types taught to be tough and not show emotion in the usual way, as per society, whereas women tend to be unfairly stereotyped as “sensitive” and “emotional”– because the majority of us are FEELERS! But, I have met men who are Feelers and women who are Thinkers; it’s an odd but fascinating swap. (I’ve at least one male cousin Feeler, one of my younger brothers is a sensitive male Feeler, and several good female friend Thinkers 🙂 ) These people tend to buck the stereotypes of society, and can feel like “outsiders” as a result. So if a T type picks on you playfully, they’re probably fond of you!



Extraverted Thinking (Te):  Concrete, solid, logical , efficient and direct thinkers, they tend to want the facts– and only just the facts (my Dad is definitely a Te user!), just like Holmes. Short, direct, and to the point is what they like– no red herrings, and definitely no sugar-coating. However, they are usually honest with those they care about, and this blunt honesty is often linked to a strong sense of fairness, a willingness to work hard, and integrity. Te-Doms or Auxes are often found in leadership roles (CEOs, military). Those with Inferior or Tertiary Te are normally more scattered, daydream-y, and often artistic and emotional people.

Types with Dominant Te: ENTJ, ESTJ

Types with Auxiliary Te: INTJ, ISTJ

Types with Tertiary Te: ENFP,  ESFP

Types with Inferior Te: INFP, ISFP


Introverted Thinking (Ti): This part of the Thinking Avenue gets trickier to navigate, as it deals with more abstract thought– not just WHAT something is what it is (Te), but WHY it’s that way (Ti). Ti users can make excellent philosophers, scientists, psychologists, etc– but surprisingly, they can also make great mechanics, too (ESTP, ISTP). After all, they need to know WHY the car’s making that noise, not just the obvious fact THAT it’s making the rattle. They look beyond what is in front of them, but still retain the blunt, matter-of-fact manner similar to their Te cousins, which can seem insensitive at times. They can have a bit of a rebellious streak against authority and the status quo, which may also risk getting them in trouble, but to the Ti-user, the pursuit of truth makes it statistically 100% worth it. Those with Tertiary or Inferior Ti are more organized, more concerned about group welfare, and sometimes utilize it to seek truth and justice if needed.

Types with Dominant Ti: INTP, ISTP

Types with Auxiliary Ti: ENTP, ESTP

Types with Tertiary Ti: INFJ, ISFJ

Types with Inferior Ti: ENFJ, ESFJ










MBTI: The Empathetic ESFJs (And Brief Update!)

MBTI: The Empathetic ESFJs (And Brief Update!)

Hi, everyone! Happy NaNoWriMo!! (National Writing Month) In celebration, I’ll try to do a minimum of 2-3 posts a week– the usual MBTI type post, PLUS an additional post or two. (At least one will be about MBTI stack-ups, and another on Shadow functions) The others may be mini-sermons, poetry, or book reviews (I still need to do several, including The Illuminae Files, the Warcross duology, and, when I finish them, Children of Blood and Bone and Crime and Punishment.  But also currently rereading Halayda in prep for Rothana, which’ll release later this month, and am going along with the FierceReads readalong–or reread, in my case– of the Shadow and Bone Trilogy, a personal favorite of mine, in preparation for King of Scars in late January.). But we’ll cross those bridges when we get to them!

Today, I’d like to talk to you about the engaging and, as the title says, very empathetic ESFJs. This is probably one of my favorite non-iNtuitive types, along with ISTP and ISFJ at times, and probably because one of my closest and dearest friends is an ESFJ– the older sister of the aforementioned INTJ twins I brought up in my INTJ post. She characteristically embodies most healthy ESFJs as a whole– naturally social, a people person, sweet, deeply caring and invested in loved ones, loyal, empathetic, nurturing. ESFJs are normally kind-hearted and optimistic, unwilling to hurt others’ feelings (which could be good or bad, depending on the situation. Which they are passionate about doing something, they can be very hardworking, with just a dash of perfectionism sprinkled in.

Here’s how the ESFJ Stacks Up:

Fe(Extraverted Feeling): Conscious function, group-oriented. This is the function that may prematurely judge and cause ESFJs to outright state their beliefs/feelings on a matter, but since they also value harmony and the group’s needs often before their own, this part of the Fe may be suppressed. Fe helps greatly with their social lives and empathy, allowing them to read and relate to people a good deal. ESFJs are often emotionally intelligent. Depending on who they’re with, an ESFJ can show a cheerful, upbeat persona (often around strangers/in public), or let their guard down and show true feelings show (close family and friends). Because they tend to wear their hearts more on their sleeves, however, sometimes this Feeler type is dubbed as a bit “dramatic,” by Thinker or Fi-using types, the amount of emotional expression used for each situation is usually quite appropriate. In fact, if given enough time, they may even use their Perceiving functions to help tweak and refine their responses and judgements. Unlike Fi-users, ESFJs are more uncomfortable with trying to sort their emotions more inwardly and independently, and often look to their Auxiliary Si to help out.

Si (Introverted Sensing): Unconscious/subconscious function. As an Aux function, Si helps copilot the ESFJ’s worldview and interaction system with Fe. Being a “traditionalist” function, ESFJs tend to rely on past experience to help them get through more emotional ordeals, and ground them better. Additionally, Si causes them to quickly becomes creatures of habit– the more often an ESFJ does something, the harder the habit is for them to break (which, again, can be a good OR bad thing). For instance, if the ESFJ was immersed in a certain worldview of politics and religion as a child, it is highly likely they will continue down that path as an adult– something many parents may take delight in with raising ESFJ children. However, this can in certain instances lead them to be more stubborn and less “open-minded” to certain individuals, so Si must be utilized well with Fe to balance out experience with emotions and values.

Ne (Extraverted iNtuition): Conscious function. As a Perceiving function, it is similar to Se (Extraverted Sensing) and encourages sensory and physical novelty; however, unlike Se, it tends to be more creative, actively brainstorm, make connections and explore all options. ESFJs frequently have a love-hate relationship with their Tertiary Ne; on one side of the fence, it encourages their creativity for their passions and a sense of wittiness. They often use the creativity in artsy-type things, or crafts, sometimes as a means of helping others or teaching others. (I see this often in aforementioned bestie– she has the creativity and skills of any good cosmetologist, and is not only all too happy to do my hair and nails for me when spending the night, she is utterly AMAZING at what she does. Giving and creativity are a dual winning combo!)

On the other side, however, ESFJs can come to resent their Ne when it inserts a sense of uncertainty into their worldviews. They like their beliefs to be firmly founded on, more unquestionable, and abstract analysis is not usually their strong suit.

Ti (Introverted Thinking): Subconscious/unconscious function. Due to their Ti being their “Inferior function,” ESFJs can struggle with making making inner, logical side. This does not mean they can’t be intuitively aware of it, however, and be in pursuit of it–but they have the tendency to be more naturally aware of understanding and helping others, rather than themselves. However, this does not mean they’ll stop try to bridge the gap between their Dominant Fe and their Inferior Ti, and reach a sense of wholeness and balance– quite a gap to cover. They will often attempt to utilize Ti in showing how logical their ideas can be (Ti) to others, as a means of affirmation (Fe– group-oriented). The more people they convince, the more THEY are convinced their ideas are logically sound. It can even get to the point where an ESFJ’s quest to seek and cling to their Ti can lead to seeming a bit like IxTPs, although they will not be as experienced in using Ti as the Ti-Dominants are. In these instances, they will make themselves out to be highly logical, competent, independent and self-sufficient, perhaps even pouring over non-fiction to understand their Ti better, and praise independent thought. These more “logical pursers” may even start to believe themselves introverts, because of a desire for inner control (because they are already masters at outer control, and influencing or helping others) and helping others. For this, it is recommended that a healthy ESFJ (who wants to connect with Ti better) overlap self-identity with their relationships and community; better yet, involve others in the quest for their self-identity and independence.

An unhealthy ESFJ, as is the case with some Fe Doms and Auxes (including INFJs like myself) can use their influence to manipulate, control, or even harm others, depending on what they see fit as benefiting the group/the whole. One negative stereotype of ESFJs include the high school, “queen bee,” but fortunately, I haven’t run into that experience in real life, and only have experienced the very positive side of ESFJs. 🙂

As a whole, though, the healthy version of the type is considered loyal, hardworking, supportive, warm, and deeply caring. If they seem “controlling,” at all, it’s often due to caring about that person and their situation, and genuinely wanting to help (as I often see in my bestie!). They usually make great parents, teachers, siblings, and friends.

Famous/historical ESFJs: Celine Dion, Ed Sheeran, William McKinley, Prince William, Barbara Walters, Elton John, Whitney Houston, Andrew Carnegie, Larry King, Andy Rooney









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What I Learned in Having Sensor Parents


So I know some of you may have heard me gripe about Sensors not understanding Intuitives like me, a few times. It is a well-known fact in my household that I am the only Intuitive, and thus considered an oddity (although we do love each other dearly). At first glance, it seems I’ve little in common with my folks, aside from a weird sense of sarcasm, my Mom’s ditziness, and my Father’s obstinate ways. They like the concrete and real; I like the abstract, the daydreams, the theoretical. They value common sense; they claim I have none (or little, at least).

However, I will admit that Sensor parents have taught me a few things, among which are:

  1. Experience can be invaluable, and it can help to shape you into who you are. This is so very, very true. As a big picture-thinker, I can easily see how past experiences have a domino effect on both present and future circumstances and possibilities. For instance, as a child, I was encouraged to read. A lot. This eventually transformed into a love for writing as well (I clearly recall wanting to write an entire rendition of a “Magic Tree House” story on a single paper plate for my First-Grade class, and was genuinely annoyed that I did not have more paper to write on, and was forced to wrap up a single, rather incomplete, chapter on the back of my plate. 😦 ).
  2. Treasure the small, precious moments in life– take time to stop and smell the roses every once in a while. Often, I get too caught up in my own world, in my own daydreams and thoughts– which isn’t necessarily a bad thing, in and of itself. But in doing that too often, I sometimes miss out on GOD’S world, and the beautiful Creation He’s created. While I don’t generally like using my Inferior Extraverted Sensing, my parents (particularly my mother) have coaxed it forward, causing me to be fairly impulsive at times, and more in the moment when need be– whether it’s appreciating Creation’s wonders, or preventing myself from wrecking while driving. (Oh yes– driving is definitely a Sensing user! As is my martial arts. 😉 ) It’s helped me appreciate blessed moments more, with and without loved ones (hey, an introvert’s gotta cope), and to savor that time more.


Calvin is an Intuitive trapped in a Sensor world, with his Sensor buddy, Hobbes

3.  Sometimes, you need to (unfortunately) adult and use common sense. Common Sense is not usually specified to any particular function, but I’ll say, for the sake of argument, it’s likely a Te (Extraverted Thinking)-related function. For those not in the know, Te is NOT in my regular stack-up (which is Ni-Fe-Ti-Se); it happens to be a Shadow Function of mine– a MBTI topic we’ll get to in a bit. But all that to say, Te is not only a weaker function of mine, it is both very underused and unhealthy when I do attempt to use it (much more adept at using the more deep-thinking Ti, anyways), thus giving the illusion that I have no “Common Sense.” To quote a certain character from a certain comic strip:


Yup, this sums me up pretty well– while my folks look on in silent dismay, shaking their heads. But sometimes, I’ve learned, you do need to be sensible and responsible. You do need Common Sense. You do need to “adult”. It sucks at times, but it’s a part of life.

Are you an Intuitive? Did you grow up with Sensor parents? If so, what lessons did they teach you?


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MBTI: The Endearing and Compassionate ENFJs

MBTI: The Endearing and Compassionate ENFJs

So have you ever had that ONE friend? No, not that one weird friend (although, all things considered, 90% of MY friends are “weird,” by normal population standards, so … *inserts cackling face*). I mean the super sweet, doting, generous, GIVING friend– the one who who gives their affection, time, gifts, talents, and yes, advice, to you. They might be an ISFJ, like one of my younger brothers. They might be an INFJ. Or E/INFP. Or ESFJ, like one of my besties.

Or they might be the playfully nicknamed “Mom friend,” ENFJ (a certain ATLA character comes to mind… I’ll shush now, Steve 😉 ).

Empathetic, social, compassionate, and understanding, ENFJs are masterful at reading people, and guessing what it is they want or need. In an unhealthy ENFJ, this can even translate to manipulation in some instances, but usually the motives are unselfish and very caring, because they think they know exactly what said person/people need(s), and will often give struggling loved ones advice on how to proceed with a problem (as well as a sympathetic ear and a comforting hug). Being incredibly giving to other people, it is important to remind them to take time for self-care every now and then. While having strong values due to Fe and Ni, the Dominant Fe’s priority of group care over self-care often (sometimes unfortunately) overrides these individualistic values, leading them to become more placating to their friends and family. This can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation at times for this sensitive type, even when surrounded by people they love and are familiar with.

However, this gregarious, friendly and affectionate type tends to be popular and much-loved by many people. Like ENFPs, they are fun-loving, and they adore people, and genuinely wish to understand them. They are normally intelligent, honest, energetic, and quick-moving– the latters likely due to Tertiary Extraverted Sensing. They can be great leaders, and are often involved on things like committees. Interestingly, they possess a different kind of intellect than their introverted cousins, INFJs, INFPs, and most NT types– they usually don’t care for leisure reading, whether for entertainment or information, unless it is something they are extremely interested in, or captures their interest immediately. They possess a vast emotional and social intellect, which I admire and respect.

I see this a lot in one of my younger cousins (who, as a minor, shall remain unnamed), one of the few, rare ENFJs I am privileged enough to make the acquaintance of. She is popular with her peers, many friends. Very caring and sweet, close with her ESFP and INTJ sisters. She is also quite athletic (Se-attributed, no doubt, and likely encouraged by an Se-Dom father and older sister), and even helps her older sister’s team by keeping score. Yet, she has a deeper side to her that sometimes raises its head when we play games like “Would You Rather?” or just talk about life, and I suspect this to be her Ni at play, though I think she more commonly uses it to understand and relate to her friends and family. Additionally, she often utilizes a combo of Fe-Se to artistically express herself, which she has gotten to be extremely good at. 🙂

ENFJ Cognitive Functional Stack-Up:

Fe (Extraverted Feeling): Conscious function. They tend to make more decisions with their heart, not their head, and since it’s an Extraverted function, it is consciously concerned about doing what is right for the GROUP’s benefit, not just their own. Dominant and Auxiliary Fe and Fi users are often sweet in nature, being pleasant peace-keepers, and Fe in particular genuinely does not wish to upset that (sometimes delicate) balance of peace between friends and family.

Ni (Introverted iNtuition): Unconscious/subconscious function. This function copilots with Fe, and helps the ENFJ understand people so well– how and why they think the way they do, and how that thinking can affect their behavior, and, finally, how that behavior can affect other people— thus, the whole group that Fe is so concerned with. They easily and internally pick up on small, subtle patterns of behavior that can help them help others in the long run, and give ENFJs a sense that they KNOW what they’re talking about, when advising a person. It also gives them a better read on people– whether or not they’re being lied to, for example. Ni is keen when it comes to subconsciously picking up on what isn’t necessarily trustworthy or provable. They thrive on the unknown, the complex.

Se (Extraverted Sensing): Conscious function. This function applies to the concrete, sensory world around the ENFJ in the here and now, and can easily cause them to be great lovers of aesthetics and physical pleasures, like beauty and great quality food. This is a fascinating balance between Ni and Se, because Ni is often concerned with the beauty of the abstract, whereas Se likes things it can physically sense, feel, smell, taste, etc. ENFJs can be connoisseurs of both Sensing and iNtuition, in this case.

Ti (Introverted Thinking): Unconscious/subconscious function, and the ultimate weakness in the ENFJ’s stack-up (THIS, I would wager, is likely why they *usually* don’t like to read for fun. *Usually*. ). This function helps to internally analyze any information the other functions have collected about, well, anything. But since Ti naturally prefers things like, say, mathematical, psychological, or scientific theories, it is often left unused. However, if balanced sufficiently well with the other functions, Ti can actually help the ENFJ strengthen that Ni gut instinct on those patterns, giving them logical reasons why those patterns exist, and helping the ENFJ form a more solid, well-founded opinion/argument (I know, I know– taboo word for us Feelers 😉 ).

Many passionate, world-changing, and visionary people are ENFJ, and often thrive on change that helps others, and makes the world a better place overall. They are compassionate innovators– usually people who want to make a positive difference. Even if it means helping bit-by-bit— because they know it will have a domino effect– by just putting a smile on someone’s face or making their load lighter. They are givers and helpers by nature. Even the ones who have turned to the “dark side,” often have their “moral reasons” for manipulating others, claiming it will benefit all involved, but fortunately, these unhealthy and more controlling ENFJs are relatively few and far in between the healthy, genuinely caring ones.

Overall, ENFJs are normally sweet, outgoing, passionate, understanding, supportive,  giving people who are fun to be around– but may need an occasional nudge for self-care.

Famous/Historical ENFJs: Martin Luther King Jr., Nelson Mandela, Jennifer Lawrence, Dakota Fanning, Maya Angelou, Reese Witherspoon, Andy Griffith








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MBTI: the Independent ISTP

MBTI: the Independent ISTP


Hello, everyone!

I am back and in action after last week’s unfortunate events… for those not in the know, I had to forego my weekend retreat due to my paternal grandmother suddenly passing away. (Which I previously wrote a poem about– I’m taking it a lot better than my youngest ESTP brother and my ISTJ Dad, both who were very close to her. She was ISTJ too, in case you were wondering. 😉 Very traditional, stubborn, quiet and hardworking, my grandma!) But anyways, onwards to this weekend’s type!

I don’t know a lot about ISTPs, save for that they’re commonly used in fiction, particularly in YA fiction (to which Steve will come after me if I say anything further on that matter, so we will save that discussion for another time… 😉 ). I do know *maybe* two of them in real life (the maybe being that I’m uncertain if they really are confirmed ISTPs…), a work friend of my ISFP mother’s (explaining why they get on well!) and one of my closest, best friends, who is a PK (Pastor’s Kid), a definite adventurer, and a bit of a natural rebel, as per ISTP standards.

Unlike their INTP cousins, ISTPs may be logical, but tend to favor the physical and kinesthetic over the theoretical. Like ESTPs, they are more live-in-the-moment (that Se again!) brilliant adventurers who love to, as one character put it, “Take chances! Make mistakes! And get messy!” They live in the HEAT of the moment, and often thrive if given the chance to work under pressure– one reason they make good protagonists for stories, particularly high-stakes stories. They like following rules and theoretical knowledge only if it agrees with their sense of logic and is practical, and are fond of marching to the beat of their own drummer, unlike the traditional ISTJ.

Very independent, and possessing a high drive for action and adventure, this is one type that can bore relatively quickly if they have nothing to do. They like to analyze, to take things apart– whether it be an argument, or, more likely, something physical they can touch– to see how it works, and what its practical application is. They analyze best when they are alone to reflect, being natural introverts.

Ultimate blunt realists, they are unafraid to tell it how it is, regardless if it may hurt someone unintentionally, in the moment. They are tough, often no-nonsense (in a way); my PK ISTP bestie is actually going to school for criminal justice, to be an officer someday– a field this action-and-justice-oriented type would surely excel at.

ISTP Cognitive Functional Stack-up:

Ti (Introverted Thinking)– Subconscious/ unconscious. Used to objectively analyze whatever person, theory, problem, or physical object in front of them, and try to figure out not only how they/it work(s), but WHY they/it work(s). This function often manifests itself well with Se, making ISTPs usually gifted with technology and mechanics.

Se (Extraverted Sensing)– Conscious. The more impulsive and adventurous side of the ISTP that simply can’t sit still, that has to be doing, has to be going, has to be at least productive– some way, some how. ISTPs may have difficulty sitting still in a classroom or at work, unless it is at an intensive computer with a complex program that needs worked on.

Ni (Introverted iNtuition)–Subconscious/unconscious. Ni manifests itself as an independent, naturally guarded cynic who highly values their free will and sense of expression–and is naturally wary of authority figures, particularly any such figures who would attempt to suppress or put limits on such an independent will. Woe to those who might dare… Woe…

Fe (Extraverted Feeling)– Conscious. They can seem like sarcastic, anti-social lone wolves at times, but this is usually due to the fact that they feel they lack the typical social graces that Feelers normally possess (without being sarcastic, etc.). That being said, the Inferior Fe is a rarer, softer, kinder side expressed in usually an abnormal, understanding/considerate, protective or playful way–similar to their INTP cousins.


Examples of famous/historical ISTPs: Sally Ride, Earnest Hemingway, Amelia Earhart, Steve Jobs, Bruce Lee, Harrison Ford, Michael Jordan,Lance Armstrong, Katherine Hepburn


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Olivia’s Fictional “NT List”

Olivia’s Fictional “NT List”


OK, I know I’ve talked about this numerous times on social media, and even a bit here. So I figured it’s high-time to grab the bull by the horns, so as to speak, and cut to the chase on that list.

But, before we do, some may ask, “What the heck IS an “NT”?”

Oh, I am so glad you asked. (Refer back to my MBTI posts for more refs, especially my INTJ and INTP posts) NTs are one of the four Meyers-Briggs Personality groups, each with four separate sub-groups. To make this simpler:






NT types tend to be theoretical, highly intelligent, argumentative/”devil’s advocate”, sometimes neurotic, witty, very sarcastic, but generally pretty loyal at their core, and ultimately idealists and truth-seekers. I tend to be attracted the most to these types more than any other MBTI types, and have the tendency to blame my INFJ-ness on that. I noticed a particular pattern of attractions, whether healthy or unhealthy, in YA fiction, and, upon further investigation, realized it was all within the same MBTI group. And more specifically, there was a VERY large crowd of INTJs (that seems to be popular in YA fantasy and sci-fi. You’ll see why momentarily). So, initially, it was the “xNTJ List,” thanks to a certain indie publishing master who helped coin the phrase for me, 😉  (Why not, “INTJ List”? Casimir, an ENTJ, of course made it.).

But then, stuff happened. And I was made to add a couple of ENTPs (who are quite attractive, btw) to the Precious. Thus making me throw my hands up into the stagnant air of my “cave dwelling” (read: my bedroom, which I seldom leave), and yell, “TO HECK WITH IT,” at my ceiling stickered with wall-puttied plastic glow-in-the-dark celestial bits. And thus, the OFFICIAL “Fictional NT Guys L4G Likes in Most Any Way” was birthed. It was a difficult, trying, but nonetheless beautiful birth.

And now it is here for you to peruse at your leisure, to your enjoyment, to your amusement, or perhaps, to your enrage-ment. I do not pretend to share everyone’s fancies of the ideally-typed mate (I know many prefer Elias… Cough… NF type… Cough…Not that there’s anything WRONG with that, being INFJ myself 😉 Just more into NTs) , nor do I pretend that I’d WANT to actually date many of these characters on this list (or that THEY would want to date ME, for that matter… Just ask their authors. LOL.). This is simply a cataloging of personal favorites, and why I like them so much.

And, as per usual, they WILL be somewhat categorized (me being the J-type planner that I am), but they will be listed in no certain order, i.e., from, “least liked to most liked,” etc. Just a regular listing. 🙂





  1. Casimir


Series: The Star-Fae Trilogy by Sarah Delena White, including Halayda, and soon-to-be-released Rothana. 

Why He Made the Cut: I can empathize with him, even though we would likely clash IRL. I’m genuinely curious about his past. What happened to him that made him want to change his destiny–along with everyone else’s– so bad? Did he see his, and it was so horrid he became determined to change it? According to his author, he is willing to pursue his ideal and objectives for the betterment of everyone (in his eyes), even while sacrificing his own happiness to achieve it. This makes me saddened, and I want him to have at least some sort of happiness in his life. Even if it be Diza 😉 . Plus, he’s got the very cool, “combine magic with alchemy” thing going on, so there’s that, too. This antag’s got the full support of his favorite minion all the way!


(Yes, IK that is LOTR, but roll with me here– the Star-Fae Trilogy sadly has few, very few, fandom artists…)

2. The Darkling


Series: Both the Shadow and Bone Trilogy and the short story, When Water Sang Fire from The Language of Thorns, by the notorious Leigh Bardugo. Hopefully, more to come… 😉

Why He Made the Cut: Even the author herself has seriously questioned numerous fangirls’ defenses of this guy. My guess on THEIR reasoning is, they like how hot he is, how physically seductive he is. While this played a MINOR factor in my judgement of him, I was seriously impressed by two things– his intellect and his complexity/humanness. Despite him regarding emotions and wanting as weakness (we ALL know that infamous line, c’mon!), as an xNTJ type– we all know he actually has a well-guarded soft side for the Grisha, his people, and for underdogs. He doesn’t open up and show that tertiary Fi too often, but he often takes a personal interest in Alina, her habits, her past, how her day was, if people are picking on her, etc. He personally relates to her, and is shown to respect (even if he sometimes disagrees with) her view in several instances. He even shows a gentler, more sympathetic if defensive/protective side to her, to Genya in The Tailor, and to Sylvi and even Annika in Demon in the Wood. I think, if he hadn’t been driven pride-, ambition-, and power-mad, he genuinely would have been a good person. We see those glimpses of goodness in him– he just doesn’t want to be alone.


3. Sorek 


Series: The Purification Era Series by Angie Grigaliunas

Why He Made the Cut: OK, initially, with this guy– I was not planning on letting him onto this list. No way, no how. I viewed him as a total BLEEP who deserved to go to you-know-where with what he fake-tried to do to Rab (though I can understand why he did it). But the more I got to know him, the more I thought, “Hey, he’s like a more complex version of Nikolai!” And guess what? It’s true. He may not be a pirate or royalty, but he knows how to chameleon very well, to blend in and act with all of his “peers” at the time– something Bardugo only touches on a few times, and that Angie delves into deeply. His complexity is seriously impressive, and his snarkiness, particularly with his crush Rab, made Nik’s actually look fairly tame– all while having me howling and rolling on the floor, clutching my stomach. He is also secretly VERY compassionate, and goes out of his way to help others if they genuinely need it.


4. Hideo Tanaka


Series: Warcross duology by Marie Lu

Why He Made the Cut: Ok, I swear Lu’s been peeking at Bardugo’s notes for Darky. Hot, mysterious, high-profile leader/boss guy with shrouded past? Check. Intense, innovative, idealistic intellect that he could use to take over countries with? Double check. Carefully but casually selected a seemingly nobody girl with special abilities and potential, ends up falling for her, hard, and flirts with her in a very coy, subtle, and VERY INTJ way? Triple check. Oh, and let’s not forget the mental and emotional link Darky and Alina had sounds remarkably similar to LINK WITH HIDEO? But, I’m not here to discuss character similarities. All that to say, Hideo is a complex, protective, guarded individual and 21 yo company head honcho who is basically a well-meaning-genius-who-goes-wrong-temporarily, and does everything he can for the sake of his family, his loved ones (including Emika, who he tries to protect numerous times, as well– and she, him. They are adorable, I’ll admit it. INTJ-INTP pairing, right there. Sigh….). Sold.


4. Nikolai Lantsov

MBTI Type: ENTP (100% certain)

Series: The Shadow and Bone Trilogy, Crooked Kingdom, and, soon, King of Scars, by Leigh Bardugo

Why He Made the Cut: Pirate… err, Privateer. Snarkiest man alive on the high seas, matey, and the most charismatic, too. He gives great, fairly sound advice, especially on politics. I think the only ones he’s failed to fully and successfully charm are Alina and the Darkling, who, on two different accounts, find him either somewhat annoying, or very annoying/a threat. Unlike his childish, perv father, and horrid half-brother, he actually cares about his country and its inhabitants, and is extremely loyal to them and his friends. Oh, and did I mention he’s an undercover Prince/now-King in disguise? I didn’t? Oh, well, there’s this, too…

“”Not bad looking?” said another voice. “He’s damnably handsome.”

Luchenko scowled. “Since when–“

“Brave in battle, smart as a whip.” Now the voice seemed to be coming from above us. Luchenko craned his neck, peering into the trees. “An excellent dancer,” said the voice. “Oh, and an even better shot.”

“Who–” Luchenko never got to finish. A blast rang out, and a tiny black hole appeared between his eyes.

I gasped. “Imposs-“

“Don’t say it,” muttered Mal.

Then chaos erupted. ” (excerpt from  Ruin and Rising by Leigh Bardugo, pg. 119.)

I rest my case.


(In honor of King of Scars, and the King of witty Scarcasm. Hope I’ve made ya proud, Leigh. 😉 )

5. AIDAN (Artificial Intelligence Defense Analytics System) 


Series: The Illuminae Files by Amie Kaufman and Jay Kristoff.

Why He/It Made the Cut:  AIDAN is technically a machine, a program, so as far as the story is concerned, and is one of those characters that I think was extremely well written, and well-developed, but at the same time, just because I like a character doesn’t mean I have to naturally agree with their worldview, and I definitely heavily disagree with the majority of AIDAN’s. Kristoff, the primary writer of AIDAN in particular, seems to have a natural knack for getting you to root for all the charmingly beasty AIs who’re seriously crushing on their human girl heroines (no, I’m not joking here). Even though it’s crazy and weird and kinda sorta unnatural. Just kinda sorta. (Read: <ERROR> I was so <ERROR> distraught when <ERROR> AIDAN did not get to <ERROR> confess his/it love <ERROR> to Kady that first time… <ERROR><ERROR>) He/it is just this… mechanized, artificial version of a classic INTJ. 90% logical, 10% emotional. A tough exoskeleton on the outside, softer wires and a heart-chip ready and willing to be broken (for Kady’s sake) on the inside. Never mind that he/it is a terror and a genius at getting people killed in a “merciful” way, if it means preserving Kady– and as much of his/its fleet– as possible. He/It will do anything he/it can to protect them, even if only by the most extreme means. He/It narrates much of the story, when it’s not in text/documented format, and shows a more artistic, very poetical side to him/it, and even referring to Kady as his/its “queen,” in a chess-sense, at one point. He/it tends to be a subtle romantic, but ultimately discloses his/its feelings for her at the end. T.T #WhyMustYouAuthorsBreakMyHeart


6. Lord Masrekah


Series: The Purification Era Series by Angie Grigaliunas

Why He Made the Cut: For a while, like Sorek, I didn’t with this guy. I just didn’t. He wasn’t quite as brutal with Rab as Sorek had been when he tested her fealty to rebellion, but I still got a vibe from him I wasn’t sure about. Turns out, again, we have another Darky-ish dude running around town square– albeit a blonder, more militarized version. 😉 His softer side does poke its head out with Ari, though, and we learn he genuinely regrets being a total BLEEP to Rab, but due to male-esque pride, won’t up and apologize to her for it (not that she’d believe him, anyways. LOL.). He’s clearly affectionate towards Ari, Rab’s younger sister (something Rab is not pleased about), but is well-meaning and respectful, as well as extremely protective of her (love that feature about INTJ dudes… SO LOYAL AND FREAKING PROTECTIVE, LIKE, “I DON’T WANT MY LOVED ONES AND MY SMOL CINNAMON ROLL BABIES TO GET HURT HERE BUT NEVER GONNA SAY THAT OUT LOUD K BYE” xD). Mas also, just like the Darkling, has something of a soft spot for animals, judging on his connection with his horse, Scourge. 🙂


7. Prince Zephryn Nightstalker


Series: The Ironfire Legacy Series by Janeen Ippolito (aka, “Janeen the Snark Queen” 😉 )

Why He Made the Cut: Evil genius-evil=Genius. MAJOR bookworm and recluse, yet caring and protective in his own dragonish, INTJ way. Love his bluntness, and willingness to stand up for Kesia, even when she’s the one cutting herself down. Definitely a brainiac and a constant knowledge-seeker; there’s no problem a book can’t help fix/advise on!



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MBTI: The INTP Inventors

MBTI: The INTP Inventors

Hey, guys!

So, remember how a little while ago I promised that Steve and I would do a double-whammy of posts this week into a little bit of next week? About to happen right now, my friends.

Tonight, we’re actually giving you the lowdown on Steve’s MBTI type, actually– the INTPs. They’re very similar to INTJs in many ways– generally very objective-minded, blunt, brilliant, sarcastic, loyal to friends and family, and like many Intuitives in general,  highly theoretical. Like most NTs, they are unafraid to objectively debate and argue to test out novel ideas (though perhaps not quite to the extent of their Extraverted cousin, ENTP), and are constantly working on generating new theories and ideas (often getting excited about these theories and ideas in the process). They are the classic, “absent-minded professor,” but don’t let that fool you– once you have them on a theoretical roll, it can be pretty tough to try to stop that avalanche!

Here’s how the INTP stacks up:

INTP Cognitive Functionary Stack-up:

Introverted Thinking (Ti)– Unconscious/subconscious function. Rather than JUST looking at solid, concrete facts, Ti has the tendency to look more into the internal MEANING behind those facts, the actual ideas/theories themselves, although INTPs are still highly logical people. Bringing order and meaning to their inner worlds, and based on this worldview, they are inclined to view many things as personal goals or challenges– perhaps one of the biggest reasons they like to debate in an intellectually stimulating way. While they can impose rules/standards upon themselves, they are inclined to break them due to their disruptive Ne copilot. They often find it easier to use Ti to uncover what is UNTRUE rather than what IS true.

Extraverted iNtuition (Ne)– Conscious function, akin and similar to outwardly brainstorming. They may not often always have a point, while outwardly expressing Ne, but consciously works to gather data; however, unlike Se, it continuously chooses to test the data, scanning for connected relationships to other facts or consistent patterns. It helps them to remain open-minded, and grasp as many possibilities as possible. We’ll see how that comes into play in just a bit. 😉

Introverted Sensing (Si)– Unconscious/subconscious function. Uses past experience to notify the brainy Ti, while the ever-curious Ne immediately brainstorms a good solution on the spot. But more commonly, it is used to establish some sort of familiarity and routine; INTPs are more of the type to “eat to live,” rather than their “live to eat” Se cousins. However, it can work in conjunction with Ti to look even beyond the bodily senses, to something deeper within the body’s state of being.

Extraverted Feeling (Fe)– Conscious function, seldom used. Because it is the Inferior function, this makes INTPs particularly uncomfortable and hesitant in emotional situations, such as funerals. Because of the Fe’s concern of maintaining outward group harmony, they may not express their feelings to avoid general, unnecessary conflict, although they are often viewed as “artificial peacekeepers,” since it is the Inferior function, and not normally too high on their list of priorities. But in positive terms, this is sometimes how an INTP shows affection, whether platonic (as Steve does with me) or romantic– by playfully teasing in using Fe. They will often playfully call you a nickname, like “Goober,” “Dork,” etc. to show they care about you, though this can seem counter-intuitive at the time.

I know several officially untyped INTPs (namely secular authors), and 2-3 officially confirmed INTPs, two professor friends/acquaintances (surprise, surprise… “absent-minded professor,” literally, here. 😉 ), my male college Engineer buddy, and Steve. So yes, there WILL be a few(albeit relevant) examples in this post.

If they are healthy, well-functioning INTPs, they will frequently utilize a “trial and error” kind of approach in dealing with facts, theories, and ideas– this helps them root out the true from the false. They start out with their Dominant brainy Ti, then use the Auxiliary Ne to idea-seek/sort through all the various possibilities. Additionally, they’ll sometimes employ their Si if they need to see if any past experiences or past gained knowledge will affect any of said possibilities, or may even offer un-thought-of ones.

Like some FJ types, many INTPs like to teach and gift the world with their expansive knowledge on the things they know best– but that can be a hair problematic with expressing direct judgements at times. They often prefer doing so with the brainstorming-on-the-fly Ne than their Inferior Fe rabbit trails. Because of Ne, they often expect pupils to catch on to concepts fast, like they do, and to make intelligent but well-informed, accurate decisions in the classroom and in life. I saw this VERY clearly in my particular Political Science Professor Who Shall Remain Unnamed (but for you fellow G alumni, and students of that school– you KNOW who I mean!), when he taught. Some people didn’t like him because he graded very hard, and often challenged common ways of thinking in the classroom; very commonly portraying himself as– almost literally at one point–“the devil’s advocate”(causing me to initially mistype him as an ENTP, but outside his classroom he is actually quite socially awkward, and prefers solitude in his office). He is open-minded enough to give students’ political or financial theories the benefit of the doubt, and is very willing and capable to test them to see if they would actually work. He seemed to have respect for those who could toe-to-toe challenge him in return, and think on the fly a bit, and expresses his Inferior Fe in trying to be playful and pick on every single person in the room for some kind of answer or example, so no one gets left out, but also knows where to draw the line if he goes a bit far.

Speaking of the Inferior Fe, as mentioned before, many INTPs express this in a kind of light-hearted banter and teasing. My bud Steve often expresses friendship in playful jest or banter with me, and my college friend Hunter liked snarking with close friends, or playfully sneaking up on then “jumping” me if he saw me walking around nearby. But Hunter’s Fe is particularly strong, even as a brilliant INTP; he is openly kind and chivalrous to many of his gal pals, the kind of dude who’d open doors for girls or walk them back to their homes at night so they didn’t have to go out by themselves. He is as much a good sport as he is good with objective advice. Steve, too, is great with advice and is very considerate and understanding in that objective INTP way.

However, as is the case with all types, not everything comes up roses with INTPs (as many would probably tell you, themselves– it would be illogical to think otherwise, after all 😉 ). Like INTJs, the “cold logic” side of them that often smacks people first can appear as aloof, stand-offish, insensitive or rude, when they are simply stating the facts as bluntly as possible (aka, one of the reasons I get on with them fairly well. LOL.). This can rub peacemaking types the wrong way, especially since this is a type that likes to test the waters of their own ideas before deciding to set sail in them– even if that means debating the crap out of said ideas and theories in order to test them. They like to make sure things are true before committing, and are very reluctant to lie or sugarcoat, if at all. They are usually not in-tune with emotions as well as Feeler types, and this can easily lead to some miscommunication and injured feelings between the types, if not handled properly. Being Thinkers with Inferior Fe, INTPs can easily override and almost completely detach from Fe altogether, acting as though they didn’t exist (and somewhat fulfilling the “cold robot” stereotype), this may be to help cope in certain circumstances, such as tragedy or loss, and help them to  bounce back quicker. This can obviously seem insensitive to Feelers, who may still openly be in mourning over the event.

Famous/Historical INTPs: Albert Einstein, Bill Gates, Kierkegaard, Abraham Lincoln, John Locke, Immanuel Kant, Rene Descartes








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