The Semi-Return of MBTI: How Intuitives and Sensors Fit Into Christian Contemporary Music

Hi, everyone!

So, no, first off, I was not lying when I said the MBTI posts would be on hiatus for a while; I namely meant the ones in collaboration with the MBTIGuy, because he is much more experienced in typing people and figuring out how they work (as opposed to relatively fledgling me. LOL.). But, this is more of a fun and less professional post, so….

I’ve been paying keen attention lately (which can be tricky for an Intuitive, particularly Ni types, since we’re so often in our heads!) to music that I listen to. I notice the lyrics, and if I notice carefully enough, most lyrics convey a sense of what MBTI type the person is, which I find to be fascinating. Si-users refer back to past experience; Intuitives speak of abstract concepts/theories, changing the world, or looking forward to/longing for something better in the future; Se-users focus on partying and having a blast in the here and now. Naturally, many secular artists seem to be Se-oriented, but there are some Ne’s and even Ni’s there, too. But I noticed there seemed to be a heavy amount of Ne, Si and Ni singer/songwriters in Christian contemporary genres (listen to both the complete albums of The Afters, Hollyn, and Jeremy Camp, and you’ll quickly see what I mean), not that there aren’t any Se-users (#LITO is just one example), it just seems like Introverted Sensors and Intuitives seem to be dominating that area of music a bit more.

And the more I listened to Air1, to my Christian CDs, the more the brain cells got to tinkering– each type kind showed a piece of a minor role that type kind was meant to play in society (by God, of course), although not specifically. For instance, Si types like Micah Tyler (“Even Then,” and “Never Been a Moment”– even the past-tense of his titles are indicative of type) are meant, to some degree, to relate to us how God’s helped us and others in the past; He was faithful then, thus, He’ll be faithful to us now and in the future generations as well.

Here’s a bit of this music. Note the distinct past tense, the looking back and reflecting, etc… All clear indicators of an Si-user type:



Ni-oriented types like to remind us of what is to come– the new earth and heaven, looking forward to being with Abba, etc. They remind us that our current predicaments do not define life as we know it, and to look at our lives as only only small puzzle piece of a much bigger picture. Artists like Jeremy Camp and The Afters tend to be more a bit more Intuitive, reminding us to press on towards the future, towards heaven and God’s kingdom (and sometimes encouraging us to actively rebel against the world):



Ne types are also big-picture oriented, but tend to be a little like an Se type met and had a kid with an Ni type– they are a perceiving function, yes, but also actively brainstorm abstract ideas and concepts, such as heaven vs. now, theology, etc. They are still innovative, still future-forward thinkers. One thing I have noticed is that this type of artist is particularly dominant in the Christian music industry– if Se’s dominate the more secular music industry, I’d have to wager their Intuitive counterparts dominate (at least, mostly) the Christian music industry. (The Afters may be Ne or Ni, it is not confirmed for certain, which is why I have the two above artists listed as simply confirmed Intuitives. The same goes for Skillet– very likely Intuitive, but there’s also a possibility they are xSTP!) I know for certain that Hollyn is an ENFP (she confirmed it), Danny Gokey is likely an Ne-user (thinking with a side of Si), as is the lead singer of MercyMe, Bart (I’ve seen the, “I Can Only Imagine,” movie, and if he is anything like the actor portrayed him… He is most likely, I would wager, a xNFP type, BIG dreams, spontaneous, initially full of optimism for them). Here are a few samples:




Se-users tend to be focused more on the here and now, in the moment, so what God wants us to do right here, right now, or living our faith out currently for everyone to see, and noticing God currently in the small, everyday details. Toby McKeehan, or TobyMac, is one wildly popular artist who really seems to emphasize this, as does the Christian band PressPlay:

(Notice the FREQUENT usage of more present tense in the song– he’s present, living in the moment, soaking up all the little details of God around him—he notes how God’s in EVERYTHING, literally the song title!)


If you’ve any doubts at all whether or not PressPlay is Se, well, they’ve just been erased: “You only live once,” is literally the motto of these Sensory, Perceiving types. They’re living in the moment, loving in the moment, loving THE moment, and worshiping in the moment. Se types teach us to take a step back, and minister to the ones around us, to enjoy worship and God’s goodness around us.


I think those are all the major type world-perceiving categories I’ve covered tonight. And again, for some of these, do not take at face value that they are Ne or Ni or Se– do your own research. 🙂 But regardless of type, these groups all share two major things in common: Make a joyful noise, and point everyone around them (and beyond!) to Christ!


MBTI: The Earth-Shaking ENTJs

MBTI: The Earth-Shaking ENTJs

Hi again, everyone!

So, I KNOW that Steve asked not to DIRECTLY do any fictitious characters with MBTI, but I’m going to be making a SLIGHT exception to this rule: No, I technically won’t be using any as examples in the post, explanation or otherwise; however, there IS a reason I am specifically doing enigmatic ENTJ powerhouses this week. (Rothana Book Blog Tour/ Release, and Casimir just so happens to be an ENTJ. Conveniently. But, that is literally ALL I am pointing out, LOL. Sorry! I get excited when I make fangirly connections! 😉 )

So, essentially, ENTJs are very similar to INTJs, being dead brilliant and all, but there are some differences– the most obvious being that ENTJs are extraverts (obvs). They have a natural “people charisma” to them that seems to run in the extravert family, and can make them quite popular, despite any blunt directness they may display due to Te. Additionally, this type also quite has a nice balance of Ni-Se in the middle, like their Feeler-y cousin, ENFJ, making them ideal connoisseurs of some of the finer things of life. They can just as easy appreciate and critique artwork in all forms, for instance (Se), while also discussing the deep facts of life with others (Ni). I have seen this very clearly in the few ENTJs I have encountered, fascinating people to talk to, usually (the females, anyways. Only knew one male one, and he was kind of just mostly bossy. xD ). Their weakness? Their Inferior Fi– being natural Thinkers, they tend to rationalize their emotions more, similar to an INTJ, only to a lesser extent at times; INTJs have a balanced Te-Fi in the middle, whereas ENTJs’ Feeling function is at the bottom of the stack and the priority pile. If an ENTJ does not learn how to balance all four as well as they can, and completely ignore Fi, this can put some distance between them and their loved ones, who may even think them cold or uncaring because the lack of Feeler-yness in their stack. However, like INTJs, they do show affection and fondness for others– just in other ways, as we’ll soon see.

Like ENFJs, they do have a manipulative, more controlling streak, that may prove unhealthy or even dangerous, if not used in a healthy and productive way. They do not like incompetence or inefficiency, so if you’re slacking in your work– in time– and an ENTJ boss or manager starts eyeballing your way, beware. Unlike sensitive Feelers, they do not mind being direct, confrontational, and even a bit abrasive (read: “mean”) as long as it means the job gets done, and properly.

ENTJ Cognitive Functional Stack-Ups:

Extraverted Thinking (Te): Conscious function. As the ENTJ’s Dominant function, it holds supreme sway over most of the other functions. They tend to talk more than listen, expressing opinions and judgements that may seem harsh to others; they Judge before they Perceive what is going on. This can be both a positive and negative trait. On one hand, this can cause them to make premature assessments before thinking on a deeper level as to why those assessments have been made, or if they are valid assessments. They may only look back later and realize that they wanted to qualify, soften, or take back what they said. On the other, it can easily make them strong, courageous, and uncompromising leaders– something that is sometimes needed in society. Te tends to make the ENTJ serious and focused on their goals, and likes external order, rationality, concrete plans and direct answers. While Auxiliary Ni can allow them to see other possibilities of doing things, overall Te still makes it pretty clear that they like things done their way or the high way.

Introverted iNtuition (Ni): Unconscious function. Like fellow intuitives, ENTJs are future-forward-focused, thanks to their Ni function. They like innovation, and are quick to get bored or restless in the mundane, repetitive old-fashioned ways of yesteryear. Instead of thinking of it in terms of “intuition,” however, ENTJs more commonly call it things like, “instinct,” or “going with your gut”. Thanks to the the analytical work of details by Dom Te, Ni is able to see how how the little details fit neatly into the big scheme of things; this notorious tag-team is similarly shared by INTJs (only, it’s Ni-Te instead of Te-Ni), making both strategic, plotting masterminds. Not only that, but Ni can help to soften Te a bit– helping them see all aspects instead of just jumping to premature conclusions. Ni also contributes to ENTJ charisma, helping to provide wit behind jokes, etc.

Extraverted Sensing (Se): Conscious function. Se tends to make ENTJs more sensuous, instinctive, and appetite-based when it’s used. Like other NJ users, Se is utilized to seek the finer quality, physical things in life, with wealthy lifestyles, new experiences and sensations, even collecting material goods. However, Ni and Te both keep a careful check over Se, and take the obvious lead on most things.

Introverted Feeling (Fi): Unconscious/subconscious function. Since they do not have ready access to their Inferior Fi, ENTJs are often either uncomfortable accessing their personal feelings and values (preferring to use Te), or just ignore/are unaware of it. As opposed to IxFPs, who have a great deal of control and influence on their own feelings and personal values, but feel powerless against the outside world, ENTJs often feel powerless against their own inner emotions and values, but often try to counter this in attempting to control their outer world and environment via Te.  However, there are moments where Inferior Fi may still rear its head. For instance, if there is a cause that particularly moves them, something that has affected them or is affecting them, they will feel obliged to work with that passion. For instance, if a beloved sibling died of cancer in the past, and the ENTJ went to medical school to become a doctor, the experience of losing a loved one could very well have touched their Inferior Fi, causing them to vow to seek a cue for others with the disease. This is not to say that Inferior Fi is always a positive thing, though– most Inferior functions are left relatively unused, and can become toxic if handled improperly by someone inexperienced in its usage. It is best if the ENTJ either balances their stack well, or focuses on honing in a bit more on their dynamic duo of Te-Ni.

Fans of the “work hard, play hard,” motto, ENTJs are master strategists and can be highly competitive– the former I’ve found to be quite true in most ENTJ females I know, being highly organized, competent, brilliant hard workers with a stratagem with just about everything and anything under the sun. They are often in leadership or influential positions– and they don’t have to be your boss or a CEO, either. One Christian blogger I know, who consistently tackles controversial spiritual and societal issues, is the most organized person I know, and is by all means the ideal epitomes of the Proverbs 31 women; she is an ambitious, in-home businesswoman, a Godly wife and mother to her small family, and an inspiration to many of her followers on social media. She plans her days and her weeks out quite thoroughly, but has learned to leave room for flexibility in her schedule, being married to a Perceiver type (ISFP– he balances her out well 🙂 ).

However, like all types, ENTJs have personality drawbacks. If they are unhealthy, they can quickly grow cold, cruel, bossy, overly insensitive, and very controlling. (They are also one of the most-used types for antagonists for books, along with INTJs and a few other types. Thinker types seem to be common with villains.).

In fact, said blogger mentioned that before she developed her relationship with her husband, she would view him as an extension of herself, and therefore anything HE did would reflect back on HER, positive or negative– and she would try to “mold” him (i.e., heavily boss, control what he wore, etc). She has since let him be his own person, fortunately, and now has an extremely healthy relationship with him and their two daughters.

Overall, it is advised that ENTJs practice using their Perceiving function, Se, and their Ni more, to balance out their Judging Te and to gain a more open perspective. That way, they are able to see all angles before they make a proper judgement call. They do often care about others, but, as common to xxTJ types, they will often express it in giving helpful advice, going to great lengths to provide for or take care of loved ones, or giving their invaluable feedback on something they think needs corrected. 😉

Famous/Historical ENTJs: Franklin D. Roosevelt, Patrick Stewart, Napoleon Bonaparte, Margaret Thatcher, Aristotle, George Clooney




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MBTI Function Stack-Up

So, we’ve been chatting a lot about MBTI types, Cognitive Function Stack-ups, and what those stack-ups mean for us, exactly (as well as how we apply them to everyday life and problems, or interactions with others). But one thing I’ve realized that we HAVEN’T discussed yet (don’t worry, we’ll get to shadow functions, eventually 😉 ) is the functions, themselves. There are four BASIC FUNCTIONS, Sensing, iNtuition (there’s a reason I wrote it like that), Feeling, and Thinking. Then each branches off into its more specific area of expertise– extraverted this or that, introverted this or that. Think of it in this light– If you go to college or uni, you have different departments, right? Well, in EACH department, there are SPECIFIC (but related!) majors you can be. In Engineering, for instance, you could be an Electrical Engineering Major, a Bio-Engineering Major, etc. In our English Department, you can be a regular English Major, an English Literature Major, an English Writing Major (Me!), and so on. Same application here: We have introverted functions, and we have extraverted functions– Se, Si, Ne, Ni, Fe, Fi, Te, and Ti. Following me so far? OK, good.

(Note: This post is going to be more of a summary post, but we’ll get into the major nitty-gritty differences later on! You guys already kind of know the difference between Se and Si; I’ve explained it before.)

As a refresher, and as previously stated, any function that is Extraverted is usually conscious/more apparent. You are normally aware you are using it. That is often why Dominant or Auxiliary Te users, for instance, can come off as know-it-alls, but really don’t mean to seem that way (think a certain character from a certain popular fictional franchise…), they’re just brilliant and honest about their brains, while being quieter (and somewhat humbler) about things like being compassionate and sweet (when they are, it’s usually more subtle and very endearing little moments). With Introverted functions, they are usually internal, subconscious, or “concealed”. No matter what your type, your first two functions will always be some sort of pairing between Extraverted and Introverted, but whether you are actually an Extravert or an Introvert yourself decides which function comes FIRST. For instance, one of my younger cousins is an ENFJ, an Extravert. She leads (Dominant) with Fe, co-piloted with Ni, balanced out somewhat with Se, and ending with Ti. As an Extravert, Fe is naturally Dominant. On the other, I myself am INFJ– an Introvert. The primary differences between my cousin and I is that our Dominant and Auxiliary functions are swapped, then our Tertiary and Inferior functions. (Note: My Ti is my Tertiary, and my Se is my Inferior) I lead with Ni, Introverted iNtuition, rather than Fe, because I am actually introverted! However, because Ni is unconscious and more underlying, more subtle, my Fe surfaces a LOT more, and, since it is an extraverted function, many assume me to be an Extravert, because I seem naturally warm, social, friendly, outgoing, etc (traits normally stereotyped with Extraverts, btw). This can cause what I like to call, “Ambivert Confusion”. There are introverted Extraverts, and there are extraverted Introverts, but no in between. It is, however, easy to confuse due to the functional stack-up. The key is to remember that Introverts always lead with an Introverted function, and Extraverts with Extraverted functions. It has nothing to do with how quiet or outgoing you are– I’ve met silent Extraverts who are great listeners, and talkative Introverts who can be loud (and, depending on the person, occasionally obnoxious 😉 ). It all boils down to HOW you get your energy (being around people, or being by yourself), how you perceive the world (big picture/intuition vs. details/sensory experiences), how you make decisions (heart/faith/emotions/beliefs vs. brain/intellect/facts/logic), and sometimes, how organized/plan-based vs. adaptable/spontaneous you are.

So, here’s the Low-Down on each function, specifically, and in which types it can be found in:


Extraverted Sensing (Se): Very “YOLO,” live in the moment kind of people. Rather perceptive to sensory details in the present, since it is solely a Perceiving function– its goal is to drink in sensory information, and observe (Ne takes it in, but simultaneously processes it/brainstorms what the info MEANS). Can behave in a childlike, impulsive manner at times. Types that have this attribute as an Inferior Function can be extremely sensitive to or bothered by outside stimuli, and prefer to be in their heads rather than in the world.

Types with Dominant Se: ESFP, ESTP

Types with Auxiliary Se: ISTP, ISFP

Types with Tertiary Se: ENTJ, ENFJ

Types with Inferior Se: INFJ, INTJ


Introverted Sensing (Si): While still focused on sensory details and quite observant, these users tend to focus on past experiences, and relay them to what’s going on in the present, or guess what will happen in the future purely with past data. These kinds of concrete patterns help them to figure out what to do next, if they get into a jam. However, if the jam is completely out of the ordinary, it may throw them off. Those with Inferior or Tertiary Si are usually innovative, daydream-y, occasionally entrepreneurial and sometimes “scattered”.

Types with Dominant Si: ISTJ, ISFJ

Types with Auxiliary Si: ESFJ, ESTJ

Types with Tertiary Si: INFP, INTP

Types with Inferior Si: ENTP, ENFP



Extraverted iNtuition (Ne): Essentially the future-focused version of Se, Ne is active perceiving, but brainstorming about said perceptions, all simultaneously. Ne outwardly brainstorms how all these little things fit into the big picture, instead of possessing Se’s simple, “They’re there, let’s enjoy them,” attitude. They are often innovative, resourceful, and inventive. Types that do not possess this as a Dominant or Aux function ordinarily use it more for things like recreational purposes, such as word puzzles or games, if they use it at all.

Types with Dominant Ne: ENFP, ENTP

Types with Auxiliary Ne: INFP, INTP

Types with Tertiary Ne: ESTJ, ESFJ

Types with Inferior Ne: ISFJ, ISTJ


Introverted iNtuition (Ni):  Future focused and often abstract, this users are very in-their-own worlds, but are surprisingly perceptive and capable of subconsciously picking up on patterns– a reason they are good at learning things like foreign languages. They are innovative and passionate, often seeing things from many different angles at once. Sometimes labelled a bit “spooky” for being able to guess things so well. Those with Inferior Ni often are very “in the moment,” Se people; thinking about what the future holds for them often freaks them out. (These would be the type of people to HAVE “Mid-Life Crisis-es” DURING their mid-life– when Inferior Ni kicks in, and they get more philosophical about their lives. Me? I’ve had mine 10x’s that, starting in TEEN years. Lol.)

Types with Dominant Ni: INTJ, INFJ

Types with Auxiliary Ni: ENTJ, ENFJ

Types with Tertiary Ni: ISTP, ISFP

Types with Inferior Ni: ESTP, ESFP


Note: Statistically, society typically has a greater number of Sensors than it does Intuitives, and Intuitives are often looked at as oddities– yet these oddities somehow end up benefiting society and helping others. For instance, the Biblical Joseph was most likely an xNFJ (unclear whether he was INFJ or ENFJ, but he was definitely a Feeler and Intuitive, and God gave him the wisdom to help plan out a survival plan for His people and Egypt!). However, each type has a part to play in God’s design; we are all important.



Extraverted Feeling (Fe): Making decisions from the heart here, based on subjectivity, worldviews, beliefs, faith, and opinions rather than cold-hearted facts (this is not to say Fe-users cannot be logical– Look at ISTP and INTP, who possess Inferior Fe). Fe is a group-oriented function, and tends to put others before self, even if their own feelings get squashed in the process; in short, they are often people pleasers. However, it can also lead them to be a bit controlling, thinking they know what’s better for the whole than the whole does. People with Inferior or Tertiary Fe tend to be less organized, more logical and objective, and more spontaneous/impulsive.

Types with Dominant Fe: ENFJ, ESFJ

Types with Auxiliary Fe: INFJ, ISFJ

Types with Tertiary Fe: ENTP, ESTP

Types with Inferior Fe: INTP, ISTP


Introverted Feeling (Fi): While still quite emotion-and-beliefs-based, like Fe, Fi differs in that it makes strong personal judgements according to its own beliefs, ideas, and opinions– but often (though not always) will keep them to themselves due to fear of judgement or not wanting to seem “intolerant” of others’ ideals and beliefs. People with Inferior or Tertiary Fi are usually logical, fairly organized, stoic, justice-seekers, but with a “I do what I want, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone physically, I’m good” kind of attitude–they are very firm about and solid on what they believe, and can be more obstinate about said beliefs. Tert and Inferior Fi users also often tend to rationalize their emotions, as a means of “making sense” of what they feel.

Types with Dominant Fi: INFP, ISFP

Types with Auxiliary Fi: ENFP, ESFP

Types with Tertiary Fi: INTJ, ISTJ

Types with Inferior Fi: ENTJ, ESTJ


Note: Those with a Tertiary or Inferior F function often playfully tease/pick on people they care about or are fond of. Statistically speaking, Most men are Thinking types taught to be tough and not show emotion in the usual way, as per society, whereas women tend to be unfairly stereotyped as “sensitive” and “emotional”– because the majority of us are FEELERS! But, I have met men who are Feelers and women who are Thinkers; it’s an odd but fascinating swap. (I’ve at least one male cousin Feeler, one of my younger brothers is a sensitive male Feeler, and several good female friend Thinkers 🙂 ) These people tend to buck the stereotypes of society, and can feel like “outsiders” as a result. So if a T type picks on you playfully, they’re probably fond of you!



Extraverted Thinking (Te):  Concrete, solid, logical , efficient and direct thinkers, they tend to want the facts– and only just the facts (my Dad is definitely a Te user!), just like Holmes. Short, direct, and to the point is what they like– no red herrings, and definitely no sugar-coating. However, they are usually honest with those they care about, and this blunt honesty is often linked to a strong sense of fairness, a willingness to work hard, and integrity. Te-Doms or Auxes are often found in leadership roles (CEOs, military). Those with Inferior or Tertiary Te are normally more scattered, daydream-y, and often artistic and emotional people.

Types with Dominant Te: ENTJ, ESTJ

Types with Auxiliary Te: INTJ, ISTJ

Types with Tertiary Te: ENFP,  ESFP

Types with Inferior Te: INFP, ISFP


Introverted Thinking (Ti): This part of the Thinking Avenue gets trickier to navigate, as it deals with more abstract thought– not just WHAT something is what it is (Te), but WHY it’s that way (Ti). Ti users can make excellent philosophers, scientists, psychologists, etc– but surprisingly, they can also make great mechanics, too (ESTP, ISTP). After all, they need to know WHY the car’s making that noise, not just the obvious fact THAT it’s making the rattle. They look beyond what is in front of them, but still retain the blunt, matter-of-fact manner similar to their Te cousins, which can seem insensitive at times. They can have a bit of a rebellious streak against authority and the status quo, which may also risk getting them in trouble, but to the Ti-user, the pursuit of truth makes it statistically 100% worth it. Those with Tertiary or Inferior Ti are more organized, more concerned about group welfare, and sometimes utilize it to seek truth and justice if needed.

Types with Dominant Ti: INTP, ISTP

Types with Auxiliary Ti: ENTP, ESTP

Types with Tertiary Ti: INFJ, ISFJ

Types with Inferior Ti: ENFJ, ESFJ









MBTI: The Empathetic ESFJs (And Brief Update!)

MBTI: The Empathetic ESFJs (And Brief Update!)

Hi, everyone! Happy NaNoWriMo!! (National Writing Month) In celebration, I’ll try to do a minimum of 2-3 posts a week– the usual MBTI type post, PLUS an additional post or two. (At least one will be about MBTI stack-ups, and another on Shadow functions) The others may be mini-sermons, poetry, or book reviews (I still need to do several, including The Illuminae Files, the Warcross duology, and, when I finish them, Children of Blood and Bone and Crime and Punishment.  But also currently rereading Halayda in prep for Rothana, which’ll release later this month, and am going along with the FierceReads readalong–or reread, in my case– of the Shadow and Bone Trilogy, a personal favorite of mine, in preparation for King of Scars in late January.). But we’ll cross those bridges when we get to them!

Today, I’d like to talk to you about the engaging and, as the title says, very empathetic ESFJs. This is probably one of my favorite non-iNtuitive types, along with ISTP and ISFJ at times, and probably because one of my closest and dearest friends is an ESFJ– the older sister of the aforementioned INTJ twins I brought up in my INTJ post. She characteristically embodies most healthy ESFJs as a whole– naturally social, a people person, sweet, deeply caring and invested in loved ones, loyal, empathetic, nurturing. ESFJs are normally kind-hearted and optimistic, unwilling to hurt others’ feelings (which could be good or bad, depending on the situation. Which they are passionate about doing something, they can be very hardworking, with just a dash of perfectionism sprinkled in.

Here’s how the ESFJ Stacks Up:

Fe(Extraverted Feeling): Conscious function, group-oriented. This is the function that may prematurely judge and cause ESFJs to outright state their beliefs/feelings on a matter, but since they also value harmony and the group’s needs often before their own, this part of the Fe may be suppressed. Fe helps greatly with their social lives and empathy, allowing them to read and relate to people a good deal. ESFJs are often emotionally intelligent. Depending on who they’re with, an ESFJ can show a cheerful, upbeat persona (often around strangers/in public), or let their guard down and show true feelings show (close family and friends). Because they tend to wear their hearts more on their sleeves, however, sometimes this Feeler type is dubbed as a bit “dramatic,” by Thinker or Fi-using types, the amount of emotional expression used for each situation is usually quite appropriate. In fact, if given enough time, they may even use their Perceiving functions to help tweak and refine their responses and judgements. Unlike Fi-users, ESFJs are more uncomfortable with trying to sort their emotions more inwardly and independently, and often look to their Auxiliary Si to help out.

Si (Introverted Sensing): Unconscious/subconscious function. As an Aux function, Si helps copilot the ESFJ’s worldview and interaction system with Fe. Being a “traditionalist” function, ESFJs tend to rely on past experience to help them get through more emotional ordeals, and ground them better. Additionally, Si causes them to quickly becomes creatures of habit– the more often an ESFJ does something, the harder the habit is for them to break (which, again, can be a good OR bad thing). For instance, if the ESFJ was immersed in a certain worldview of politics and religion as a child, it is highly likely they will continue down that path as an adult– something many parents may take delight in with raising ESFJ children. However, this can in certain instances lead them to be more stubborn and less “open-minded” to certain individuals, so Si must be utilized well with Fe to balance out experience with emotions and values.

Ne (Extraverted iNtuition): Conscious function. As a Perceiving function, it is similar to Se (Extraverted Sensing) and encourages sensory and physical novelty; however, unlike Se, it tends to be more creative, actively brainstorm, make connections and explore all options. ESFJs frequently have a love-hate relationship with their Tertiary Ne; on one side of the fence, it encourages their creativity for their passions and a sense of wittiness. They often use the creativity in artsy-type things, or crafts, sometimes as a means of helping others or teaching others. (I see this often in aforementioned bestie– she has the creativity and skills of any good cosmetologist, and is not only all too happy to do my hair and nails for me when spending the night, she is utterly AMAZING at what she does. Giving and creativity are a dual winning combo!)

On the other side, however, ESFJs can come to resent their Ne when it inserts a sense of uncertainty into their worldviews. They like their beliefs to be firmly founded on, more unquestionable, and abstract analysis is not usually their strong suit.

Ti (Introverted Thinking): Subconscious/unconscious function. Due to their Ti being their “Inferior function,” ESFJs can struggle with making making inner, logical side. This does not mean they can’t be intuitively aware of it, however, and be in pursuit of it–but they have the tendency to be more naturally aware of understanding and helping others, rather than themselves. However, this does not mean they’ll stop try to bridge the gap between their Dominant Fe and their Inferior Ti, and reach a sense of wholeness and balance– quite a gap to cover. They will often attempt to utilize Ti in showing how logical their ideas can be (Ti) to others, as a means of affirmation (Fe– group-oriented). The more people they convince, the more THEY are convinced their ideas are logically sound. It can even get to the point where an ESFJ’s quest to seek and cling to their Ti can lead to seeming a bit like IxTPs, although they will not be as experienced in using Ti as the Ti-Dominants are. In these instances, they will make themselves out to be highly logical, competent, independent and self-sufficient, perhaps even pouring over non-fiction to understand their Ti better, and praise independent thought. These more “logical pursers” may even start to believe themselves introverts, because of a desire for inner control (because they are already masters at outer control, and influencing or helping others) and helping others. For this, it is recommended that a healthy ESFJ (who wants to connect with Ti better) overlap self-identity with their relationships and community; better yet, involve others in the quest for their self-identity and independence.

An unhealthy ESFJ, as is the case with some Fe Doms and Auxes (including INFJs like myself) can use their influence to manipulate, control, or even harm others, depending on what they see fit as benefiting the group/the whole. One negative stereotype of ESFJs include the high school, “queen bee,” but fortunately, I haven’t run into that experience in real life, and only have experienced the very positive side of ESFJs. 🙂

As a whole, though, the healthy version of the type is considered loyal, hardworking, supportive, warm, and deeply caring. If they seem “controlling,” at all, it’s often due to caring about that person and their situation, and genuinely wanting to help (as I often see in my bestie!). They usually make great parents, teachers, siblings, and friends.

Famous/historical ESFJs: Celine Dion, Ed Sheeran, William McKinley, Prince William, Barbara Walters, Elton John, Whitney Houston, Andrew Carnegie, Larry King, Andy Rooney




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What I Learned in Having Sensor Parents


So I know some of you may have heard me gripe about Sensors not understanding Intuitives like me, a few times. It is a well-known fact in my household that I am the only Intuitive, and thus considered an oddity (although we do love each other dearly). At first glance, it seems I’ve little in common with my folks, aside from a weird sense of sarcasm, my Mom’s ditziness, and my Father’s obstinate ways. They like the concrete and real; I like the abstract, the daydreams, the theoretical. They value common sense; they claim I have none (or little, at least).

However, I will admit that Sensor parents have taught me a few things, among which are:

  1. Experience can be invaluable, and it can help to shape you into who you are. This is so very, very true. As a big picture-thinker, I can easily see how past experiences have a domino effect on both present and future circumstances and possibilities. For instance, as a child, I was encouraged to read. A lot. This eventually transformed into a love for writing as well (I clearly recall wanting to write an entire rendition of a “Magic Tree House” story on a single paper plate for my First-Grade class, and was genuinely annoyed that I did not have more paper to write on, and was forced to wrap up a single, rather incomplete, chapter on the back of my plate. 😦 ).
  2. Treasure the small, precious moments in life– take time to stop and smell the roses every once in a while. Often, I get too caught up in my own world, in my own daydreams and thoughts– which isn’t necessarily a bad thing, in and of itself. But in doing that too often, I sometimes miss out on GOD’S world, and the beautiful Creation He’s created. While I don’t generally like using my Inferior Extraverted Sensing, my parents (particularly my mother) have coaxed it forward, causing me to be fairly impulsive at times, and more in the moment when need be– whether it’s appreciating Creation’s wonders, or preventing myself from wrecking while driving. (Oh yes– driving is definitely a Sensing user! As is my martial arts. 😉 ) It’s helped me appreciate blessed moments more, with and without loved ones (hey, an introvert’s gotta cope), and to savor that time more.


Calvin is an Intuitive trapped in a Sensor world, with his Sensor buddy, Hobbes

3.  Sometimes, you need to (unfortunately) adult and use common sense. Common Sense is not usually specified to any particular function, but I’ll say, for the sake of argument, it’s likely a Te (Extraverted Thinking)-related function. For those not in the know, Te is NOT in my regular stack-up (which is Ni-Fe-Ti-Se); it happens to be a Shadow Function of mine– a MBTI topic we’ll get to in a bit. But all that to say, Te is not only a weaker function of mine, it is both very underused and unhealthy when I do attempt to use it (much more adept at using the more deep-thinking Ti, anyways), thus giving the illusion that I have no “Common Sense.” To quote a certain character from a certain comic strip:


Yup, this sums me up pretty well– while my folks look on in silent dismay, shaking their heads. But sometimes, I’ve learned, you do need to be sensible and responsible. You do need Common Sense. You do need to “adult”. It sucks at times, but it’s a part of life.

Are you an Intuitive? Did you grow up with Sensor parents? If so, what lessons did they teach you?


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MBTI: The Endearing and Compassionate ENFJs

MBTI: The Endearing and Compassionate ENFJs

So have you ever had that ONE friend? No, not that one weird friend (although, all things considered, 90% of MY friends are “weird,” by normal population standards, so … *inserts cackling face*). I mean the super sweet, doting, generous, GIVING friend– the one who who gives their affection, time, gifts, talents, and yes, advice, to you. They might be an ISFJ, like one of my younger brothers. They might be an INFJ. Or E/INFP. Or ESFJ, like one of my besties.

Or they might be the playfully nicknamed “Mom friend,” ENFJ (a certain ATLA character comes to mind… I’ll shush now, Steve 😉 ).

Empathetic, social, compassionate, and understanding, ENFJs are masterful at reading people, and guessing what it is they want or need. In an unhealthy ENFJ, this can even translate to manipulation in some instances, but usually the motives are unselfish and very caring, because they think they know exactly what said person/people need(s), and will often give struggling loved ones advice on how to proceed with a problem (as well as a sympathetic ear and a comforting hug). Being incredibly giving to other people, it is important to remind them to take time for self-care every now and then. While having strong values due to Fe and Ni, the Dominant Fe’s priority of group care over self-care often (sometimes unfortunately) overrides these individualistic values, leading them to become more placating to their friends and family. This can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation at times for this sensitive type, even when surrounded by people they love and are familiar with.

However, this gregarious, friendly and affectionate type tends to be popular and much-loved by many people. Like ENFPs, they are fun-loving, and they adore people, and genuinely wish to understand them. They are normally intelligent, honest, energetic, and quick-moving– the latters likely due to Tertiary Extraverted Sensing. They can be great leaders, and are often involved on things like committees. Interestingly, they possess a different kind of intellect than their introverted cousins, INFJs, INFPs, and most NT types– they usually don’t care for leisure reading, whether for entertainment or information, unless it is something they are extremely interested in, or captures their interest immediately. They possess a vast emotional and social intellect, which I admire and respect.

I see this a lot in one of my younger cousins (who, as a minor, shall remain unnamed), one of the few, rare ENFJs I am privileged enough to make the acquaintance of. She is popular with her peers, many friends. Very caring and sweet, close with her ESFP and INTJ sisters. She is also quite athletic (Se-attributed, no doubt, and likely encouraged by an Se-Dom father and older sister), and even helps her older sister’s team by keeping score. Yet, she has a deeper side to her that sometimes raises its head when we play games like “Would You Rather?” or just talk about life, and I suspect this to be her Ni at play, though I think she more commonly uses it to understand and relate to her friends and family. Additionally, she often utilizes a combo of Fe-Se to artistically express herself, which she has gotten to be extremely good at. 🙂

ENFJ Cognitive Functional Stack-Up:

Fe (Extraverted Feeling): Conscious function. They tend to make more decisions with their heart, not their head, and since it’s an Extraverted function, it is consciously concerned about doing what is right for the GROUP’s benefit, not just their own. Dominant and Auxiliary Fe and Fi users are often sweet in nature, being pleasant peace-keepers, and Fe in particular genuinely does not wish to upset that (sometimes delicate) balance of peace between friends and family.

Ni (Introverted iNtuition): Unconscious/subconscious function. This function copilots with Fe, and helps the ENFJ understand people so well– how and why they think the way they do, and how that thinking can affect their behavior, and, finally, how that behavior can affect other people— thus, the whole group that Fe is so concerned with. They easily and internally pick up on small, subtle patterns of behavior that can help them help others in the long run, and give ENFJs a sense that they KNOW what they’re talking about, when advising a person. It also gives them a better read on people– whether or not they’re being lied to, for example. Ni is keen when it comes to subconsciously picking up on what isn’t necessarily trustworthy or provable. They thrive on the unknown, the complex.

Se (Extraverted Sensing): Conscious function. This function applies to the concrete, sensory world around the ENFJ in the here and now, and can easily cause them to be great lovers of aesthetics and physical pleasures, like beauty and great quality food. This is a fascinating balance between Ni and Se, because Ni is often concerned with the beauty of the abstract, whereas Se likes things it can physically sense, feel, smell, taste, etc. ENFJs can be connoisseurs of both Sensing and iNtuition, in this case.

Ti (Introverted Thinking): Unconscious/subconscious function, and the ultimate weakness in the ENFJ’s stack-up (THIS, I would wager, is likely why they *usually* don’t like to read for fun. *Usually*. ). This function helps to internally analyze any information the other functions have collected about, well, anything. But since Ti naturally prefers things like, say, mathematical, psychological, or scientific theories, it is often left unused. However, if balanced sufficiently well with the other functions, Ti can actually help the ENFJ strengthen that Ni gut instinct on those patterns, giving them logical reasons why those patterns exist, and helping the ENFJ form a more solid, well-founded opinion/argument (I know, I know– taboo word for us Feelers 😉 ).

Many passionate, world-changing, and visionary people are ENFJ, and often thrive on change that helps others, and makes the world a better place overall. They are compassionate innovators– usually people who want to make a positive difference. Even if it means helping bit-by-bit— because they know it will have a domino effect– by just putting a smile on someone’s face or making their load lighter. They are givers and helpers by nature. Even the ones who have turned to the “dark side,” often have their “moral reasons” for manipulating others, claiming it will benefit all involved, but fortunately, these unhealthy and more controlling ENFJs are relatively few and far in between the healthy, genuinely caring ones.

Overall, ENFJs are normally sweet, outgoing, passionate, understanding, supportive,  giving people who are fun to be around– but may need an occasional nudge for self-care.

Famous/Historical ENFJs: Martin Luther King Jr., Nelson Mandela, Jennifer Lawrence, Dakota Fanning, Maya Angelou, Reese Witherspoon, Andy Griffith



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MBTI: the Independent ISTP

MBTI: the Independent ISTP


Hello, everyone!

I am back and in action after last week’s unfortunate events… for those not in the know, I had to forego my weekend retreat due to my paternal grandmother suddenly passing away. (Which I previously wrote a poem about– I’m taking it a lot better than my youngest ESTP brother and my ISTJ Dad, both who were very close to her. She was ISTJ too, in case you were wondering. 😉 Very traditional, stubborn, quiet and hardworking, my grandma!) But anyways, onwards to this weekend’s type!

I don’t know a lot about ISTPs, save for that they’re commonly used in fiction, particularly in YA fiction (to which Steve will come after me if I say anything further on that matter, so we will save that discussion for another time… 😉 ). I do know *maybe* two of them in real life (the maybe being that I’m uncertain if they really are confirmed ISTPs…), a work friend of my ISFP mother’s (explaining why they get on well!) and one of my closest, best friends, who is a PK (Pastor’s Kid), a definite adventurer, and a bit of a natural rebel, as per ISTP standards.

Unlike their INTP cousins, ISTPs may be logical, but tend to favor the physical and kinesthetic over the theoretical. Like ESTPs, they are more live-in-the-moment (that Se again!) brilliant adventurers who love to, as one character put it, “Take chances! Make mistakes! And get messy!” They live in the HEAT of the moment, and often thrive if given the chance to work under pressure– one reason they make good protagonists for stories, particularly high-stakes stories. They like following rules and theoretical knowledge only if it agrees with their sense of logic and is practical, and are fond of marching to the beat of their own drummer, unlike the traditional ISTJ.

Very independent, and possessing a high drive for action and adventure, this is one type that can bore relatively quickly if they have nothing to do. They like to analyze, to take things apart– whether it be an argument, or, more likely, something physical they can touch– to see how it works, and what its practical application is. They analyze best when they are alone to reflect, being natural introverts.

Ultimate blunt realists, they are unafraid to tell it how it is, regardless if it may hurt someone unintentionally, in the moment. They are tough, often no-nonsense (in a way); my PK ISTP bestie is actually going to school for criminal justice, to be an officer someday– a field this action-and-justice-oriented type would surely excel at.

ISTP Cognitive Functional Stack-up:

Ti (Introverted Thinking)– Subconscious/ unconscious. Used to objectively analyze whatever person, theory, problem, or physical object in front of them, and try to figure out not only how they/it work(s), but WHY they/it work(s). This function often manifests itself well with Se, making ISTPs usually gifted with technology and mechanics.

Se (Extraverted Sensing)– Conscious. The more impulsive and adventurous side of the ISTP that simply can’t sit still, that has to be doing, has to be going, has to be at least productive– some way, some how. ISTPs may have difficulty sitting still in a classroom or at work, unless it is at an intensive computer with a complex program that needs worked on.

Ni (Introverted iNtuition)–Subconscious/unconscious. Ni manifests itself as an independent, naturally guarded cynic who highly values their free will and sense of expression–and is naturally wary of authority figures, particularly any such figures who would attempt to suppress or put limits on such an independent will. Woe to those who might dare… Woe…

Fe (Extraverted Feeling)– Conscious. They can seem like sarcastic, anti-social lone wolves at times, but this is usually due to the fact that they feel they lack the typical social graces that Feelers normally possess (without being sarcastic, etc.). That being said, the Inferior Fe is a rarer, softer, kinder side expressed in usually an abnormal, understanding/considerate, protective or playful way–similar to their INTP cousins.


Examples of famous/historical ISTPs: Sally Ride, Earnest Hemingway, Amelia Earhart, Steve Jobs, Bruce Lee, Harrison Ford, Michael Jordan,Lance Armstrong, Katherine Hepburn


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